I'll be honest, I think you're going to struggle to find anything that suits you purely because you seem to be looking for ways to be upset and put your views of war onto others.
I think first of all, you're confusing remembrance, and honouring the loss of soldiers lives, for military worship. Many people have lost loved ones who've fought in wars to protect them. So they try remember that honour and sacrifice, to show respect for the lives lost and to remember what they fought for. You're viewing each soldier as a part of a collective, each war as something that could have been avoided. But many see them as friends and family lost forever. As people whom they loved and cared for. Would you not be upset if those close to you died? Would that change if they died fighting in a war? Most monuments and statues I've seen in Australia refer to WW1 and WW2 as well. We lost a lot of good people trying to fight against a powerful, violent enemy.
Military worship would be praising current soldiers and bowing and treating them specially. I've never seen that in Australia. We treat soldiers as regular people. In small towns you'll likely see some show for them, as they've likely been away from home at a military base for a long time and are now returning. They're not celebrating war, they're welcoming the return of family and friends.
Because you seem to dislike war, you're placing the values you see onto others. You need to gain perspective and realise the intent of why we honour the dead and remember our history. It is not to glorify war.
You say it should be like owning a gun and constantly proving you're not doing something wrong? I don't get what you mean by that. There are gun owners in Australia, and they aren't constantly made to prove they're not doing anything wrong. Our military history is far from perfect, especially in modern times. But statues and monuments and parks aren't to ignore that. You see praising the good as ignoring the bad, when that is not the intention.
Again you're failing to see the other side. Falling back into ignorance. Most of what you've said is horrifically arrogant. You've ignored my most important points. This response may seem angry but your response comes off as incredibly selfish. You seem to think war is a choice made by both sides. It honestly comes off entitled and selfish.
My parents immigrated here as well. That doesn't really affect anything. Those people have monuments in their home towns and countries. Where they are from. Do you think every country should honour every person ever? Do you think those people want monuments in the countries they fought against? I highly doubt anyone would. Like I said and you've ignored, it's to honour their family and friends.
Again you're being seemingly purposefully ignorant. This isn't patriotism, although I was born here with my siblings, the rest of my family were not and they can still understand what memorials are for.
This is about real people, not the concept of a countries military. You refuse to separate the person from the soldier. You treat every soldier as if they're one single entity whose life only consisted of war. They are people, and it's rude of you not to treat them as people. The monuments are not for taking lives, but for lives lost. They're not posting kill counts and bragging. They're remembering their dead friends and family.
Again, you're ignoring my point. These aren't blame to those who killed him. And what do you mean made him go there, do you believe every soldier is drafted? Or are you saying whomever starts a war is always wrong? The point was, if you lost a friend, you'd likely want to honour them.
You're just making up points to justify your feelings. There is villains and enemies on both sides in a war. Blood on all hands. There's complications to every aspect of life. It's just easier for you to call things black and white and call yourself smart for choosing a side. War is an unfortunate but real part of life. You're just imagining you're more intelligent and more evolved for not wanting violence. It's honestly quite arrogant. Sometimes there isn't a choice but to get a weapon when you're being fired at. Assuming a big part of soldiers love killing? Why because of a few Hollywood movies? No, you're just trying to justify your beliefs.
But you're not willing to change, so you expect society to change for you. You've made your mind, are ignoring all the points I've made, and refusing to see another perspective. All you've done is double down and brag about your pacifism. Quite frankly, I doubt there's a country in the world that will suit your ego.
I've never seen a single opinion as narrow minded as yours. The effect is clearly just missed by you, because you don't want to see it. You're making yourself feel smart, superior, better than others for making choices with hindsight. Quite frankly it's arrogant and shameful.
Since you ignored my entire point of separating the soldier and person in my first post, I won't be responding again. You need to remember a person is more than their job. They were a brother, a son, a friend, a student, so many things to so many people. It's rude of you to boil down their existence to your narrow view of the world. Keep feeling superior for not wanting war and imagining the rest of the world is bloodthirsty and violent. Because with that much ego, you'll be alone a long time.