EsteeBestee

People in the fediverse talking about how much they don't use reddit anymore reminds me of people that are "totally over" their ex.

I know there are some out there who legitimately believe in the witchcraft they're performing, spells they cast, crystals, etc., but for me, I do practice wicca, but it's less about thinking that I'm having a physical effect on the world and more of a way to almost meditate and for sure a way to connect to my spiritual side.

Even though I know that me performing a ritual to bring a friend some good luck or something won't actually do anything in the real world, it puts me in a space where I can reflect on my friend and what they mean to me, for example.

It certainly can be a bit silly, but many of us practice because we like the state of being and state of mind it can put us into, vs truly believing we're performing magic.

Surprisingly, Baldur's Gate 3. I absolutely love D&D, but I tried playing through the Pathfinder video games, Pillars of Eternity, Divinity: Original Sin 2, and nothing stuck with me. I just wasn't a fan of the CRPG genre, despite me playing in-person tabletop RPGs multiple times a week.

I bought BG3 thinking I probably wouldn't get hooked, but I didn't want to miss out when literally every one of my friends is playing it. Well, I am absolutely hooked and have 40 hours in the game and will likely do multiple playthroughs, and I kind of "get" the genre now. I know PoE, PF, or DOS2 may not be as good, but I feel a lot more confident at the prospect of playing them now.

So in this case, FOMO helped me a great deal.

You are not only incorrect, but hypocritical and selfish if you want rights for yourself, but not for other LGBT people who absolutely exist, whether you like it or not. Keep in mind that trans people were side by side with gay people at Stonewall and ever since, always fighting for LGBT equality (never just trans equality), and here you are whining that they want equal rights just like you want. I know you might not be American, but that's still a very important moment in LGBT rights history and it wasn't just gay people there

Gender exists, including non-binary genders. I suggest using some modern sources to catch up on LGBT issues, as you seem to have some unhealthy, and frankly bigoted, views on portions of the LGBT community. I've seen you completely overblow gender issues in some of your comments with awful and ridiculous "examples" ("transfemme demisexual aromantic oceangender individual" and " transmasculine forestgender cat-boychick") and those shitty "examples" do not represent like any transgender or non-cisgender individuals. That's just not what's going on with gender issues at all. Maybe some person online said something like that, but that's about 0.0001% of trans people.

Exactly zero of the non-cis people I know are anywhere close to your examples. They're all just normal people who were born where their gender doesn't match their birth sex.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/359295113_The_Biological_Basis_of_Gender_Incongruence

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6748626/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6830997/

And like... I kind of get where you were coming from, since certain media does its best to say that trans women are "invading" women's spaces or that trans women are inherently "unfair" when compared to cis women, so even if you don't buy into that stuff specifically, it can still be somewhat pervasive, especially since it isn't always hate-media spreading that. There's always a sort of background noise about how trans people are bad in some way, so it can be hard to have fully resolved thoughts on the subject.

The only issues I've personally seen relating to trans women in women's spaces is if a terf loses their shit, and usually in that case, the other cis women lose their shit at the terf. At least in my own life, the overwhelming majority of cis women seem to have no problem with trans women existing in women's spaces (where I am, at least, which is an admittedly progressive area) and I've never really seen a trans woman causing issues, personally, even in sport (I know there were some high level cases in the last few years, but that's like less than 1% of cases, most trans women in sport are just... women... playing sports). I guess that's why I'm so headstrong and forward on the topic, since media says all this and that about trans people and hardly none of it has been true in my own life. I know others' personal experiences will be different than mine, but I'm just really sick of seeing hate directed at minorities who just want to exist (you were not directing hate, I mean the FIDE ruling, you were being pretty darn reasonable, even if you initially disagreed with me).

But you don't understand, she's an attractive woman and therefore must be an attention seeker and nothing more.

/S

The FIDE's ruling on trans men shows they "think trans men are men" (they probably don't actually, but that's what the ruling implies), yet they then ban trans women from women's competitions, meaning they don't think trans women are women, by implication. This ruling isn't consistent, isn't fair, nor does it actually accomplish anything besides driving out a minority group who already have a tough enough time just existing in the first place. It's also not even fair to trans men to strip their titles, as they likely won those titles when they didn't know they were a man.

The ruling here is in no way reasonable, IMO. It exists to hurt people and does nothing else. Trans women need women's spaces just as much as cis women do and banning trans women from women's spaces does not "protect the women" like some people cite for rulings like this, it just further alienates trans people. If someone gets bent out of shape because a trans person exists in the same space as them, they can go fuck themselves, that's their problem, not a trans person's problem.

I heavily disagree with you saying "and this at least provides an avenue for trans women to potentially participate" considering before this ruling, trans women could already play in both women's tournaments and open tournaments and now are banned from women's tournaments. It's the opposite of being inclusive. If you're a trans woman, would you want to go play chess if you're specifically told that you can't play in women's only spaces? No, you probably wouldn't even start. This new ruling specifically exists to discourage trans women from competing by othering them and saying they aren't woman enough to go play with the other women.

The best way for the FIDE to be inclusive is to continue just having open and women's spaces as usual and not fuck with trans people's ability to exist in spaces consistent with their gender. There were no problems being caused before, this ruling isn't fixing anything, it's just hurting people.

I've sort of just accepted it. I work in a niche position in a software company that's in a niche sector and while people do depend on me for their livelyhoods, I wouldn't say the products I produce are, in the grand scheme of things, meaningful. What I do only exists as a job in the 20th and 21st centuries and humans got on just fine before that.

I instead find meaning in my hobbies and out of work activities. My job, while pretty meaningless in my mind, does pay me enough to allow me to have a good life outside of work. I don't need my job to be meaningful, I just need it to not suck.

I know it's probably been done in other games, but the drill charge solves so many issues. In past games, you can maybe get a camper with a grenade, but now it's almost guaranteed (especially if you also run in to finish them off if it doesn't get them). It was a brilliant addition to MW2 and I hope it stays in basically all CoD games.

Same here. It would have been nice if reddit changed their mind, but ultimately the whole situation allowed me to break my addiction. I feel much healthier on a daily basis now that I spend maybe an hour on Lemmy, Beehaw, or Tildes vs 5 hours pointlessly arguing with people on reddit. I have a ton more gaming time and reading time now and I feel comfortable checking reddit if I need to reference something (like, it really is the best place to access Destiny 2 community info, for example). It's honestly really great not checking social as much, I didn't realize how much life social media was sucking out of me.