I like everything you have to say here. I really hope that this can become a good alternative to FetLife for all things kink, eventually. I like Fet as a platform, but they definitely have some moderation issues among other things, but that's its own discussion for its own topic, I suppose.
I definitely look forward to seeing how things develop here. The Fediverse is definitely a great platform to establish a strong community.
Out of curiosity, is there an interest in having a separate "sister community" explicitly dedicated to kink/BDSM education? I don't know the logistics for something like that as far as Lemmy is concerned, but I can't stress enough how important my local Lifestyle groups have been with regards to education and support, and there are a lot of places that don't have resources like that anywhere nearby. It'd be great to have a sort of virtual alternative for folks that don't have a local kink scene, or that aren't comfortable in such a "public" setting.
That's pretty sound reasoning. I use Matrix and really love it.