First part:. Different UPSs have different behavior. Some are more sensitive to disturbances, whether caused by line or load.
Second part, the UPS being connected to utility has no effect on the inrush to the server. It all depends on where in the AC sine wave the energy starts flowing. Ever plug something into an extension cord with a clear receptacle? Sometimes there is a sizable blue arc, sometimes small, sometimes none. All about where in the cycle the connection is made.
I run a Dell T7920 with dual Xeon Silver 4114, 2 spinning disks and a few SSDs. Idles at 85w with disks spinning and a few Dockers running. 150 to 200w when ripping movies or during data transfers. I don't do anything intensive so I don't have any high usage data.