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No big self help lemmy so I had to ask it somewhere else. Alright, I'm an university student but:

• I don't like too much noise (no parties or bars).
• I only go to university twice per week and it's far from home.
• I don't like dating apps.
• Social media imo stresses me out instead of helping me.
• Can't steal friends of friends: New city, I know no one here.
• I suck abismally at sports. Also I don't have a sporty profile.
• Board/cardgame shops usually catter to people aged 30 and over as they can actually buy the games.

I'm just, like, out of ideas where to meet people aged 16-26. My best shot so far was in public transport but I'm usually too tired to bother. Been thinking of joining a DnD table or something just to meet people already rofl.

Hello there. I don't remove my leg hairs typically but summer is upon us + I am closeted and have a family that's anal about it.

So I was thinking in just trimming with a scissor or blade, but there is also the option of laser removal. However I was told that lasers permanently destroy your hairs, which is bad. I want to have them after I start with hormones since where I live men don't shave unless they are flamboyantly gay. Really, I saw more teens with painted nails than shaved legs because at least painted nails are a metal rock aesthetic.

I bet laser would be a pretty bad idea if I want to have hairs still after T. But even before T I'm pretty hairy because of PCOS. But maybe it wouldn't and maybe they would grow back with T, specially if I don't take too many sessions.

So, FtMs of Reddit: To laser or not to laser on my situation?

Hi there, I'm a trans man and just separated all winter clothes that are too undeniably feminine for me. They're the large pile on this picture, which should have ten or so sweaters. However I'm fairly petite, I have 161cm and slim shoulders. I wear S size (with some XS or M sprinkled in). I'm not sure transfem shelters would need such small clothing and I've been thinking in giving them to other shelters instead (but not thrift stores). Thoughts?

Hi there. I live with an old woman who sometimes pockets some money to work as an informal dogsitter of sorts.

So she got a pretty good amount (half a month's minimum wage where I live) to take care of a removed for a week. She doesn't accept pissfingers, though this is one of the top 2 questionable dogs she ever accepted. An adult female shih tzu with a teeth pointing out (like this picture) which means it probably came from a puppy mill.

This dog took an instant liking to my pensioner, but not to me. Also we're both females of similar stature and the dog's owner is also a female. So it's not man shy.

Whenever I approach this dog, she retreats and hides herself under a table or wardrobe. If I approach her within a range of 3 meters, she gets further away. When my pensioner is home, the dog follows her around like a shadow (expected behavior for a companion dog I think) but also puts herself between me and my pensioner barks at me when I get near. The dog never barks at me when I'm alone with it.

Whenever I open my bedroom's door, she also begins barking. She doesn't stop barking when she sees it is me. The only time she won't do that is when we're both in the kitchen, which is also our dining room, probably because she hopes I'll throw some scraps from my table (which I never did, but my pensioner does even though I told her not to do it).

She also barks back whenever a dog barks in the street. We live on the third floor of an apartment.

The dog is not bite/scratch oriented. The only time I can go near the removed is if both her and my pensioner are cuddled together in the sofa or bed. She either won't bark or ceases barking when I sit down in the sofa, but still keeps looking at me like I'm a convicted criminal. She allows herself to be pet, but is visibly uncomfortable when I try to do so, even when I don't pass my hand over her head.

Probably the worst thing though is that she has a piss mat. She usually knows how to use the piss mat, but when no one is looking she will pee in front of my bedroom's door (which is always closed). Our floor is carpeted.

Things I have tried so far that didn't work: Talk to the dog in a "toddler" tone, squat to talk to the dog, lay on the floor to talk to the dog, share space sitting next the dog, pet the dog and then give her some kibble (she wouldn't eat from my hand), put the kibble in front of her and retreat my hand (she would burrow it within the blanket instead of eating), live normally not paying attention to the dog whatsoever.

Dog also really dislikes going out for a walk and hides before being collared.

I'm thinking in buying some treats on a pet store and try the kibble strategy again but with something tastier.

Hello, I've been looking into email providers. I'm not an activist, just a regular user concerned over privacy.

I used CTemplar in the past until it shut down. Had a cockli email and although it isn't Google the privacy isn't stellar either. I tried to get into Proton, but being unable to use Thunderbird on he free plan was a massive turn-off for me since I like switching easily between different accounts.

After a bit of searching the following came across for me as the best services: [free] Autistici, PARANOID, Disroot. [paid] Posteo, Elude.

Assuming I theoretically got invites for all the free services (they're all reliant on manual approvation), which one would you recommend?

@edit: After reading a bit on the free services, I decided that I will choose them in a Disroot > Autisci > PARANOID order of priority,

Hi there, helping a friend and his 4 GB RAM laptop out. His mother won't allow him to get another OS as I suggested, so we're stuck with Windows 10.

Hello there. I've started my MG 2e RPG read. I've fallen in love with the setting, but I really didn't like the GM's "The Mission" part of the game.

It reads like a rushed sequence of railroads: Mice run through a pre-determined and pre-calculated sequence of encounters with a very specific number of checks, then find a place to rest where they're allowed only a short respite before hitting the road again.

I've first thought that it was going to be an easy thing to just rip that part off, before I realised that the entire game seems balanced on the fact mice have arbitrarily few checks. Screw this, and I'll also screw with the "checks" economy and overflow opportunities to call Bonds/Instincts/Goals as well.

So: Can I and it actually won't break the game? Should I just find another game?

Hello there. Angry parents stories are sadly more common, but I remember reading back on Reddit a heartwarming story about a dad who accepted fully his daughter. So while we all know how "bad" relationships usually go, I'm curious to hear about people who had love and support in their journeys.

So usually I played on FFXIV, so now I'm starting on MJS since my subscription ran out. I really like south games more, but I've been running East-only games in bronze room just so the game can end quicker since playing a drawn-out match with people who will just rush open yakuhai/tanyao hands is not exactly fun.

Anyone been in that situation? :P