I keep seeing this advice from very smart people who have their lives together, "if you want to finish a thing, don't tell people about it" - and two clicks later there's other very smart people who also have their lives together going "if you want to finish a thing, tell people about it". It's really 50/50 which one you're going to be told, almost as if it either depends on the individual which one works or it's entirely meaningless.

[–] citrixworkkbin@kbin.social 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

if you want to finish something, finish it

also, don't have adhd, or, alternatively, hyperfocus on that one thing at the expense of other things that you actually should be doing

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.de 3 points 11 months ago

don’t have adhd

Silly me.

[–] comfydecal@infosec.pub 1 points 11 months ago

Very true, this much more nuanced take on the issue.

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 20 points 11 months ago

I skip the tell everyone part so I don't need to feel that bad about not finishing it

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 10 points 11 months ago

Yea, I heard once that you shouldn't tell anyone if you want to do something new. Because telling everyone, already getting respect by everyone and all that even tho you didn't even did anything gives your brain more dopamine than actually doing it. So yea. The trick is to not tell anyone. There is still a huge chance that you won't finish the project, but the chance that you do it is higher and if you don't the shame is lower. But anyway I'm saying this all but I didn't learn from this tipp myself. I also always tell everyone instantly about my new project that I will absolutely do this time! Because I absolutely don't need that trick, because THIS TIME its different. THIS TIME I actually do it. :) yea...

[–] d1tt0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 11 months ago

i didn’t need this level of calling out first thing in the morning. 🤣

[–] Senseless@feddit.de 5 points 11 months ago

I'm in this picture and I hate it. And officially I don't even have AD(H)D

[–] Ubettawerk@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 months ago

And then the guilt when they ask how (blank) is coming along..

[–] reedbend@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 11 months ago

I realized that I do the 'tell everyone' stage because I'm trying to recruit a body double so I'll stick with the project 😅

[–] db0@hachyderm.io 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

@db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com Tagging #ADHD #memes

[–] vasco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 11 months ago

cool idea

[–] fiat_lux@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago

I'm feeling very attacked.