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I got clubbed on my forehead with a hockey stick. Needed stitches and have an eyebrow scar now.

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[–] throwaway389430@lemmy.cafe 26 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Using a throwaway for this: I was beaten so badly by one of my abusers that my blood was splattered all over the living room wall and my shirt. This happened when I was 12, on Super Bowl Sunday, in the middle of the game. The abuser and I were arguing over something trivial when that thing attacked, and well 😞 The other adults in the room sided with the abuser and one of them made me change my bloody shirt so they could throw it away to hide the evidence. It was the moment when, as a kid, I realized I was truly alone and not wanted by anyone or anything, so I tried to kill myself a week later, on Valentine's Day. I backed off at the last second. I doubt there'll ever be a time I can talk or even think about it without feeling pain or hurt or wanting to cry.

I am not alone in the world anymore though, thankfully. Nowadays I have good friends in my life whom I can rely on for protection and help and whom I try to protect and help in kind. But that'll always stick with me. The family you have in life is the one you build, not the group of people you're born into.

[–] strawberry@artemis.camp 8 points 1 year ago

glad to hear you're doing better :)

[–] all-knight-party@kbin.cafe 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Amen to your final statement. A lot of people forgive family for heinous injustice because "they're family" or time passed. You need to hold people accountable for their actions and have your opinions change accordingly.

Your abusers committed terrible atrocities to you and I'm glad they don't even deserve their familial title in your description. I'm glad you have new family that deserve being considered as such.

Agreed! One of my favorite quotes has always been the old "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb". We don't get to choose who are family is, but we do get to choose who are friends and those close to us are.

Just like with everyone else in my life, I hold my family to the "Respect is earned, not given" stance - not sure how I feel about the wording of that quote because it sounds like I'm saying that I'm crappy to people by default which isn't the case. Rather, I'm not going to fight to have a relationship with some of my family members if they aren't going to try to put in the effort themselves to meet me halfway.

So sorry to hear about that, no child should have to go through that. The strength you had to overcome all that is amazing. Hope the very best for you ❀️.

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[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Sucker punched by a stranger on the street ranting that I was a police informant. Smashed me right in the forehead so hard everything went dark for a minute, and when I woke up he was straddling my chest and punching my face and throat. I don't go out in public a lot anymore.

[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Shit. Was it a person you knew or a stranger?

[–] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sucker punched by a stranger

[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just when I think I've sunken as deep as I can into my stupidity, I find new lows.

[–] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hah don't worry about it. We all do it. Just... maybe not on the internet with all these witnesses.

[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 year ago

Lol, thanks

[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago

Never saw him before. Sometimes I think I see him around town but I can't be sure.

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[–] Pantherina@feddit.de 8 points 1 year ago

Not me but in LΓΌtzerath, the last german town that was destroyed (directly) for mining coal, cops just hit and kicked people in the head, with bats, that were lying on the ground...

Medics were trying to help while the fucking Cops still punched the fuck out of them, and they were all peaceful.

At least one person was beaten so hard they were in life critical condition for several hours.

Yayy, police your friend and savior

[–] atlasraven31@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago

A kidney stone. Small but oh so much internal damage. I would say law enforcement 2% pepper spray is the most painful non-damaging event I have experienced.

[–] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I was picked on a lot in school. About 5 or 6 of my bullies chased me down in the yard and took me down. I remember trying to protect my sides while they stood around me kicking, and watching the blood drips appear on the gravel.

The school yard monitors never even noticed and they were never punished.

Jesus that's sad. Sounds like a hollywood teen movie.

[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

It wasn't a beating, just one kick in karate class. We wore cups (groin guards) and protective equipment, but I was an adolescent and "changing" rapidly so my cup was several sizes too small.

We were also supposed to "pull" our kicks and punches, but my sparring partner didn't pull his kick to my groin and he broke my groin protector cup. It hurt so much I lost my breath and fell over until my sensei had me sit in an 'L' position while he lifted me from behind under my arms. That seemed to straighten things out.

[–] roguetrick@kbin.social 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I did that on accident once. Was aiming for a chest kick, ended up giving a chick a full force groin kick and layed her out. They started making me spar with highschool boys after that. One eventually kicked me through the drywall lol.

My balls hurt just reading that

[–] almost1337@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Fell and broke my femur at home. Needed to be surgically repaired with a titanium pin, after which I was in the hospital for 5 days, rehab for 3 weeks, and then a few months later had another surgery to replace a screw in the pin which was protruding and scratching up my thigh muscle from the inside.

Oh that screw to muscle contact sounds like the worst, tho I'm sure the broken femur was.

[–] Emperor@feddit.uk 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Headbutted by a skinhead on my way home from school. I couldn't see straight afterwards and had to be walked home by a friend..

A biker once hit my across the head with a pool.cue rest. It was weird as I didn't see anything happen but everything slowed right down (fight or flight is useless when you can't see the threat), I noticed a guy I knew start to react and then I went blind. Someone sitting with me says the blood fountained out of my head then lost pressure and ran into my eyes. I was alright after I got cleaned up, although someone did walk me home to make sure I didn't die up an alley or something . When they renovated the pub I was tempted to ask.if I could have the floorboards stained with my blood but I decided not to.

[–] yngmnwntr@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Do you regret not asking? If those floorboards were still in usable shape somewhere in a shed would you want them now? It's been 15 years and I still regret leaving a completely innocuous but immensely personal random ass piece of pipe somewhere that my grandmother could accidentally scrap it. I would absolutely have carried that piece of garbage with me all these years. I have so many memories from the little time we had, who knows what we could have accomplished together.

[–] Spoonraker@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
  1. When I was a kid I was swimming by the edge of a pool, and a heavy set five-year-old cannonballed on my face. I got knocked into the water and the force of her weight took my goggles right off.

  2. My tennis coach was demonstrating how to hit the ball at the apex of a toss, and he used his racquet to hold the ball up against the fence. He didn't realize that I was standing behind him, and he swung the racquet back and nailed me right in the lower jaw.

[–] JeeperDon@compuverse.uk 4 points 1 year ago

Got hit by a car. Lots of broken bones.

Oh and the lovely daily dose of my mother whipping me with belts while I wasn't allowed to make a sound.

[–] innermachine@lemmy.one 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm currently sitting in bed in pain no sleep (besides during surgery) for second night in row. Dislocated wrist and shattered forearm, 8 inch I believe long plate (had to get custom made, so I got to spend a night with my bone all but protruding through skin) with 13 screws. To hold me together. All cuz some jackass in a lawn care truck decided to go left in front of me when I had right of way, I slammed my brakes but hit his bed I was on my motorcycle. Flipped over his bed straight cleared it then skipped down pavement like 20 ft or so. If not for my suit I would have lost the arm and had far more injury. I'm a mechanic by trade so 3 months recovery min is going to ruin me.

bike handle into my stomach and dry heaving on the hot pavement

[–] 31415926535@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Chased into street, knocked into street pavement, kicked in stomach repeatedly while neighbors watched.

Thrown across room, onto sofa, jumped on top, pinned me down, beating into my face with his fists.

Hit, shoved so hard I nearly flip, slam into wall, earring ripped thru ear.

I had a happy childhood.

I'm so sorry, that's terrible. If that's your father I hopr you've cut him out of your life. And I hope youre safe and happy now ❀️.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When I was little, there was this game many of us played where we put clothes hangers (the ones with clamps) on ceiling fans and watched where they hurled the clothes hangers. We stopped when it gave me a black eye.

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

We used to throw stuff at fans to see where they'd deflect it luckily no bad injuries. Had a ketchup sachet slap my brothers face but no other physical injuries

[–] LongPigFlavor@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Nearly got strangled to death by my own dad for saying that the family name didn't mean much to me. He pushed me against the wall. My stepmom and stepbrother had to get him off of me. That was years ago. I no longer speak to or see him.

[–] bermuda 1 points 1 year ago

I was fucking around playing basketball with people in middle school when the school bully tried to dunk on me. Being a moron he didn't realize how he couldn't jump high enough to reach the net so he ended up kneeing me in the chest, then he got mad at me for his lack of jumping skills and kicked me in the nose when I was down on the ground. He said I was blocking the net.

Somehow I wasn't concussed but I had a huge nosebleed and went to the emergency room. Just had a huge headache for like 2 days.