For me, it was getting in to running and getting active. After a lifetime of being inactive, it let me start to feel connected to the body I'm in, and feel proud of what it can do.
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I’ve never really heard it out this way, but I like it! Thanks for the perspective
I honestly should start doing that, it is a good idea
If it turns out that running isn't your thing, I'd recommend trying some sports. Climbing is basically the only exercise that doesn't bore me to death. Plus, they're a great way to meet people, and a lot of cities have a queer specific league.
I will clarify sometimes "self-care" is a day off to pamper yourself and do whatever tf you want, but sometimes "self-care" is Journaling, or setting reminders for yourself to wash your face or whatever to literally take care of yourself. Sometimes you do need to be reminded "wash your face, it will make you feel better" that second part tripped me up on the idea of self-care for a while.
Oh yeah, this reminds me i should set up some self-care tasks, thanks a lot for the reminder :3
Hi. Pre-HRT, 26 year old transfem here! This is exactly what this community is for, you're welcome to ask.
I think I've got an okay grip on shaving. Trimming: I have a hair trimmer, like for your head, that I use to weedwhack. I use it because its strong like a tool and I can drop it without worries. Not safe in the genital area. Safe everywhere else.
Shaving face and body; I shave with a double sided beveled edge safety razor. The blades are so cheap and so sharp, I couldn't recommend it more.
On my face I prep with a shower or a hot damp towel. Clean your face with soap, even exfoliate gently. Then let the hot water soak in. I prep with a pre-shave oil, I have strong whiskers. More hot water. I apply a shaving cream, it's there to hold the hot water in so I keep adding hot water as muxh as I can. I lather that cream, pushing it into my face until its almost invisible, I add more, with water. My razor is resting in a bowl of hot water, too. Short strokes, light or no pressure. Barely there. Sometimes I hold skin taut. I rinse with a room temp water, while its a little damp I apply post-shave lotion. Its got some calming component in it to ease the skin. Then I lotion the rest of my face with a facial lotion, since I washed the rest of my face earlier, too.
I usually use Barbasol for sensitive skin on my face, its just what I grew up on. Sometimes I do the whole brush lathered shaving soap thing but its a luxury to me.
Shaving body I used to get horrid red bumps. So now I make sure the skin is SUPER CLEAN. Exfoliated. Totally soaped and scrubbed every inch. Shaving day is exfoliation day. Exfoliate first, shave, sometimes I even exfoliate after, gently. It keeps the ingrown hairs out. Basically hot water, I lather with eos brand or barbasol, and I sit in the steamy shower, water turned off, and I shave my legs while sitting down. With the grain, then against the grain if you desire it. Always with the grain first. Then I rinse off. I usually use my nornal lotion on the shaved areas, but if I knicked myself I have coochy brand post-shave spray. I hate it, and it costs too much. But it does work.
Oh, one thing I've had luck with is the Curly Girl methods. You can read all about it, but I'll share what worked for me real quick. Im white, and I had straight light brown hair that might get wavey on occasion. This info helps determine your hair type.
So I use Shikai everyday shampoo in cucumber. And I have terrible scalp buildup of dead skin, so I use a scalp silicone scrub brush to exfoliate that junk off of my head.
Then I use Garnier Whole Blends smoothing conditioner with coconut oil. Coconut oil works well for some but it can be a trouble ingredient on curlier hair. Youre looking for a product with no parabens, phthalates, or silicones. It has to be clear of these things or your hair just wont pick up new curls.
And I did the method where you kind of split your hair into groups and gently pull on it. I shit you not I did this twice, and months later I still have a few waves in my hair. And I think the waves make my hair a lot more feminine than if it laid straight.
When I wash, I also use a leave-in conditioner. I have Grow Long by marc anthony. Its fine but there's nothing special about it. I also have a detangler from pantene, and a paddle brush. No more thin toothed combs, ya gotta start with a brush with wide teeth to avoid damaging it.
There are some fantastic videos out there on transfem shaving, on curly hair methods, I have just learned to love youtube because I have had to DIY everything in my life. I have a drag queen friend though and they recommend I start my makeup with Colour Pop so I did. I also have some drug store and dollar store stuff. Wet n Wild is good in some categories. I watch Wayne Goss, and Alexandra Anele. But I have little practice using makeup so I wont offer direct advice.
I recommend getting a waxing kit on Amazon, they're like $40. Only way I can eliminate the 5 o clock shadow lol. Waxing hurts, but it destroys the follicles so if you do it regularly you won't have to deal with it as often. I normally just do my face and my genitals and shave the rest, but kinda considering doing a full body wax sometime 🤔