Asklemmy

I do whatever the fuck I want, unless it is unpolite or could hurt somebody's freedom.

I learnt that, as I don't give a shit about what people are doing, they must also don't give a shit either. People just care about themselves most of the time. The day I realized that, I had a strong freedom feeling.

Having kids multiplied this attitude by 1000 and actually, I see people smiling and interacting with us while we're fooling around.

GO PLAY WITH FUCKING PUDDLES WEARING PINK PANTIES ON YOUR HEAD MY DUDE ! I might join you.

I've always been such a child at heart and my soul is bursting with whimsical energy when I see kids playing pretend at the playground next to where I walk my dogs. I'd love to play pretend with them, encourage the children to really let their imaginations run wild and free. I was often lost in my own world as child. I know what it's like to be so consumed by it. I want to fight the robot king, too!

I'm an adult male however. I would definitely look like a child predator, so I must go on my way.

In my past I used to take on janitorial or maintenance jobs, but the grossness of the job combined with the attitude of the general public just made it unbearable. People would ask me if I was a citizen and when I said yes, they'd tell me that it's a job for immigrants. They'd also say that it's a job for slaves and ask if I felt like a slave doing that kind of work.

I've been into BDSM stuff since I was a kid basically, but I've always been to embarrassed to tell anyone or act on it because it's some seriously kinky shit.

Wear a fanny pack/carry a non-backpack bag as a man.

It's so convenient to have a bag full of stuff on you. Like I'm out and have a headache, boom Aspirin. At dinner and got some food in your teeth, bam flosser. It's very satisfying when a situation comes up and you have the exact thing to solve a problem right there in your bag. But a backpack is too big and bulky and anything smaller becomes a purse and this looks down upon for a man to carry.

I only get the courage to wear it when on a trip where I can overly justify it. Like hiking, or a theme park or convention. I feel like if it was an everyday thing I'd have to explain it or hear about it more than I'd want to.

I'm so scared to be seen, that I can't even go for a walk. I also want to get skateboard, but I can't for the same reason. I'm terrified to be seen alone, or just seen in general.

Yet despite this, somehow I'm the opposite of that and manage a bunch of girls with compete confidence when I'm at work. I also have to deal with a ton of customers and don't even hesitate to say no or let them have negative judgement to me. I'm very socially competent and meet new people all the time without fear of rejection and opening up. I definitely stand out, in a good way.

Yet I'm scared of them simply watching me going for a walk outside??

Breaking my very long period of unplanned celibacy.

I think I could get laid, but I’m worried I wouldn’t perform well in bed and that I’d be shamed for it.

There's loads of little daft hobbies I either don't do at all or hide. I went magnet fishing with a friend once, we found some cool jewellery that I still have and it was fun, so I went home and bought my own kit, I've never been though cause I don't want to be that person doing it alone, or to actually ask anyone to come. Just lives in a box.

Sounds like you're still a kid at heart. I've got a 2yr old and I immensely enjoy playing these sorts of games with him. My wife always jokes that I'm using the sandbox more than him, she even snapped a couple of pics of me playing alone in there.

What kind of clothes are you talking about? A skirt on a man is still pretty courageous, but if you're talking about a pink shirt just go for it. You'll not be judged.

Pretty much that last paragraph of yours.

I don't care if people see me as childish, weird, or even dumb. I do lots of things that make me seem all of those things.

But that makes me hesitate for some reason.

I did open up about it to some friends I was sure wouldn't judge, and it helped a lot.

As soon as you leave high school, if not before, you should be your own person. Blaming others for things you want to do isn't healthy and shouldn't be used as an excuse.

I'd be more comfortable with physical contact. I'm NB, but most people still perceive me and treat me as a man (even though I've said many times that I'm not) and that comes with the stigma of keeping distance.

I also love to play with LEGOs, it's kind of therapeutical I guess. It's just me, talking about random things. It's the same with videogames, I mostly play RPGs, but it isn't as "weird".

BTW, while I'm non-binary, I'm still involved in man's problems because I live them for my appearence. I also help some male friends with their problems with masculininty and feminism, so they don't end up being redpilled alpha sigma males lol

Nothing. I truly do not give a fuck anymore.

The key is to accept there will be social consequences and to ignore them. Once people see the consequences they impose do not affect you, especially after they escalate which they will do at first, they'll stop and accept your behavior.

Thinking out loud

Travel the Caribbean & document my travels & the cultures & concerns of the people I meet with my own eyes

Why not? Well, I'm an actual idiot in reading social situations, Knowing who to trust, inferring details, attempting any meaningful level of reading comprehension on the spot, avoiding the urge to hyper focus on random stuff (makes people uncomfortable sometimes), trying to be humourous in terms of wordplay, and nowadays just avoiding social exhaustion.

Now with all that, imagine the amount of judgement & talking down to I've gotten just entering into social events or even bars.

A trip to the Caribbean to understand people?

Not happening lmao!!!

To those of you who can, you're all blessed.

Probably make videos of interesting things I do. Sometimes I do something and think this is the kind of stuff I watch on YouTube.

Singing

I don't pick my nose or fart in public. I don't lick a plate or use the finger to scoop what's on it if I'm in company. I also don't phase out and daydream half as much in public, an exception would be on public transport as everyone is kind of gazing at nothing so it's not obvious I'm in another dimension entirely.

As for other things, no, I don't have that kind of filter. I will occasionally stop and stare at that interesting pattern on a tile or leaf, follow closely with attention what the birds are doing, sniff if I sense an animal and see if I can find its trail (possums and rats usually) etc. I still build sandcastles at the beach and if the opportunity arises I'll scribble on cardboard coasters or paper napkins.

Wearing my comfy lil shorts 😩 I got a big ass and u kno

Anything criminal.

Really don't need to be judged for that stuff.

Farting in public. My friends got the view that it's only a natural thing to do, so when we're together we just do it without judging each other. The majority of people don't think like it, i guess most find it digusting or take it as a reason to mock you. I don't understand how we ended up like that. Guess humanity still has to grow up a little more :D

Crime, I don't like being judged as guilty.

Don't worry about what people think about you. They're too worried about what you think about them.

Getting onto HRPT. I'd need to get to a field with unobstructed view of sky. Now imagine walking through the city with an 80cm satellite dish.
People stare weirdly even if I am just standing in middle of soccer field for 15 minutes with a V-Dipole to receive APT/LRPT.
Speaking of APT, theoretically I have beautiful pass of NOAA-18 in a little over an hour. (Edit: Got that one: https://lemmy.sdf.org/post/2767357)
Hmmm...