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[–] Shelena@feddit.nl 25 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Save your sister, she is not okay. You are not an inferior person, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are not responsible for everything. Your boundaries matter. Your feelings matter. You will be okay.

[–] Flannels9658@lemmy.ml 22 points 2 years ago

She invited you over at 2am cuz she wanted the D you fucking idiot

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 17 points 2 years ago

"You're trans lul, and don't worry about coming out your mom is nice and dad doesn't give a fuck" Honestly would probably make my childhood harder but would make my mid/late teens onward a lot less confusing and painful.

[–] gloriousspearfish@feddit.dk 16 points 2 years ago

You fight much bigger problems that others around you. Your way of thinking is definitely not normal, seek diagnosis and help. Life is not supposed to be this complicated mentally.

[–] DharmaCurious@startrek.website 14 points 2 years ago

Tell Mama to divorce him now. Give her this letter.

[–] argv_minus_one 13 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I can't think of anything I'd tell myself, but I do know what I'd tell my parents: use condoms.

[–] Shelena@feddit.nl 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

This one seems very sad. I hope you are okay.

[–] argv_minus_one 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm stuck on a planet whose civilization is rapidly turning into a feudalist dystopia. We'll all be lucky to have roofs over our heads in 10 years. Also, it'll be impossible to survive without air conditioning. So no, I am not okay.

[–] Shelena@feddit.nl 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I think that is the most negative scenario of what could happen. I mean, you hear and see the effects of climate change more and more around you. I am also extremely worried about it. But I have still some hope that we find ways to at least keep it liveable. I do see some progress. It is not fast enough, but I hope that it will go faster once the effects become more obvious and more people actually feel the pressure. I do not think we can complete avoid climate change anymore, but we still might be able to mitigate the most horrible effects. That is what I see in the scientific papers on it, at least.

The only sure way we will not make it, is by giving up.

[–] argv_minus_one 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

Maybe, but that still leaves the feudalist dystopia and mass homelessness.

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[–] MrMonkey@lemm.ee 13 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] jeena@jemmy.jeena.net 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You started drinking as a child?

[–] MrMonkey@lemm.ee 7 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Depends on what age you could as "child". But yeah.

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[–] OnopordumAcanthium@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Nothing, because something is always gonna be shitty. See Butterfly Effect or Life is Strange.

[–] photonic_sorcerer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 years ago (2 children)

That doesn't mean that things can't be better!

[–] SouthFresh@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago
[–] OnopordumAcanthium@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

I recommend to watch Butterfly Effect, it's a really good movie that deals with that exact topic.

[–] Squirrel_Patrol@lemm.ee 11 points 2 years ago

You're experiencing abuse and it's not normal. You also don't have to put up with your family because they're your family.

[–] cityboundforest 10 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Don't listen to your parents; for all of the advice out there in the world that says that your parents know what's best for you and want that for your future, that does not apply here. Also it's okay to be gay and agender, so go slay and get a sweet boyfriend.

[–] Shelena@feddit.nl 2 points 2 years ago

That is some very good advice to yourself!

[–] heliodorh 10 points 2 years ago

You're AuDHD, and I believe everything that's happening to you at home. It's real and you're not lying or making it up. You don't deserve this. You're a good person and your family wasn't prepared or willing to meet your needs. You are NOT a burden or an unlovable, broken failure of a child. You are BEAUTIFUL.

Keep writing & fiercely loving your stories - NEVER give up on them, or anything else that brings you joy; your interests & passions & the woman you love (and that love is NOT wrong) are your family now.

[–] Disgusted_Tadpole@lemmy.ml 9 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Always take spare batteries for your GameBoy

[–] Gmork@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago

The real life changing advice ⬆️

[–] makuus@pawb.social 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Whatever comes of it—whether you get hurt, or whether you get suspended—you just need to lay your bullies out.

They won’t ignore you. They won’t go away, no matter how hard you work to be unnoticeable. It’s trying to do that—to be invisible so that they’ll leave you alone—that will change the course of your life for the worse. You won’t be a high achiever, you won’t go to a good school, you’ll just coast, forever suffering the damage they did, and regretting that you didn’t do anything about it.

The only thing they’ll understand is the kind of violence that says you’re not worth fucking with. Don’t worry what Mom will think. Don’t worry about the pain of a punch or two. Don’t worry about your “permanent record”. All that will be temporary in the grand scheme of things.

[–] Shelena@feddit.nl 3 points 2 years ago

I am sorry to hear that. It is not your fault. It is the fault of the bullies who did it and it is the fault of the adults that did not protect you. You were just a child. You cannot be expected to solve something so difficult as bullying all by yourself. Many adults cannot even do that. Apparently, the adults in your environment could not solve it, so how could you be expected to do it?

Regretting it does not help. Regretting it just prolongs the pain. It just keeps the idea alive that it is somehow your own fault and that you had control. You did not have control. However, you do have control now.

If you still feel invisible, do something about it. You do not need to still keep suffering the damage. That is something you actually can do something about now.

[–] hoodlem@hoodlem.me 7 points 2 years ago
  • See a psy doc when you’re a teenager. Your teachers asking “Is everything ok? Is something wrong?” out of the blue are red flags that you need help.
  • When in doubt, forgive others
[–] happyhippo@feddit.it 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Ask that girl out JFC!

[–] leah@lemm.ee 6 points 2 years ago

"Those teachers and your fellow students? They're not actually that stupid and you're not crazy. Confront your parents about those standardized tests the school had you take; they're hiding the results from you. You could do so much more if only they'd let you skip some grades, but they don't want you to grow up too fast and think you'll socialize better if you don't skip. You'll be bored and never learn how to actually learn hard subjects if you don't get away from these imbeciles quick. Oh, and you'll develop a condescending tone which drives away every potential friend you could have had if you don't do this. Also, you're trans."

[–] loudWaterEnjoyer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Buy bitcoin and dump all of it at 65k

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[–] nawordar@lemmy.ml 5 points 2 years ago

"You will have a psychotherapy and regret it hard not doing it earlier. School psychologist is not enough. Find a psychotherapist now"

[–] Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It's not that hard to lose weight. You don't have to eat only lettuce. You just have to eat less.

[–] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Not even that, just gotta eat the right things! I can eat a ton of veggies and fill myself up.

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[–] loffiz@feddit.nl 4 points 2 years ago

You have generalized anxiety disorder. Learn to handle it. Also, it is very normal and most people are unaware of their psychological issues.

[–] JSens1998@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago

Enjoy life to the fullest as a kid. Adulthood freaking sucks.

[–] NuMetalAlchemist@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Get on Effexor as soon as possible. Oh and you're Autistic. Have fun!

[–] Rocky60@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

Say no more often

[–] Mrderisant@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

College is not for you. I know you are looking forward to it but it will ruin your mental health, land you in massive debt, and lead to a suicide attempt. You won't finish anyway. Join a union and don't work for a place that makes aluminum molds. Do lots of ab workouts and you could avoid a couple of hernias

[–] waka@feddit.de 4 points 2 years ago

All kinds of Sugar and Starches are alcohol for your body. Keep up with that japanese course. Invest in Crypto hard just like you wanted to but thought it was expensive and risky at the time. Keep crypto, no sell, until a super rich publicly well known guy suddenly invests, then leave crypto days later asap.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

Love your close family more, you will need it.

[–] Karlos_Cantana@sopuli.xyz 3 points 2 years ago

Don't drink.

[–] hamburglar26@wilbo.tech 3 points 2 years ago

The Chuck Taylor All Stars you wore to school are cool, and the douche who made fun of you for not having Nike Airs is a loser. In general, care less about what other people think and be yourself. And finally, join the band or orchestra instead of play football and learn a skill you can take with you for the rest of your life instead of getting your bell wrung for nothing.

[–] Duamerthrax@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

You don't have a learning disability and you don't belong in the special classes. Don't trust anyone that says it will be fixed the next year and go to a different high school when they say the classes you want are filled.

[–] DakkaDakka@reddthat.com 2 points 2 years ago

Actually do what you want to do. Don't try to please everyone else with your life choices, you're the one who has to live with them.

[–] chahk 2 points 2 years ago

Don't sweat the petty things.

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And don't pet the sweaty things.

[–] Wojwo@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

Mormonism isn't true, but she's worth it. (not the girl you think I'm talking about, she dumps you while you're on your mission.)

[–] s_s@lemmy.one 2 points 2 years ago

Don't go to college.

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