i know absolutely that i personally couldn't do a poly relationship. i'd be confused, upset, and unable to adapt to that kind of situation. that being said, i wish my poly friends no ill will and hope to see a world in with they'd be able to get married if they so choose. same goes for people who have no desire to be in a romantic relationship.
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I tried wholeheartedly being in a poly relationship, the biggest problem for me was lack of time to develop a deep relationship. Now I'm happily monogamous and I still feel like I don't have enough time for my partner
I understand exactly what you mean. I'm in an ldr and have been for a long time. We've met up twice for extended periods of time and are working towards a visa now but it's very hard being apart.
That sounds like a really hard way to be living! Is there an end in sight?
We're both saving like mad for a visa and legal advice right now but we at least know how much it's going to cost.
So there's a solution in sight! Keep at it, I know these things move at a galacial pace but the wait will be worth it!
(me and my partner had to wait while she secured citizenship before we could move to another country together, it has been hard but so worth it)
yeah, tbh i've been handling it worse than them. i'm the clingy, anxious type though so i have to keep reminding myself that every single day is progress.
Thanks!! It's wonderful as I have now a word I can use to describe something I was struggling to succinctly name!
Thanks for the link, I haven't read nearly enough aspec literature even though I am aro. Excited to watch through this after work and come back and provide my thoughts.
Took me a few days to find time to watch this. It's not quite as a deep a dive as I was hoping, which is perhaps unsurprising given that the person giving the talk is allo. I'm not sure I really learned anything, but there was some nice framing that I might use to help other allos understand in the future.