Pan as hell no matter what my imposter syndrome tells me!
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Hello fellow bi person
Ace and nonaro (don't really label it any further personally)
Super duper pansexual.
Lesbian here :3
Bi, but only been in het relationships. Dudes I know just are all assholes.
Normally straight-ish, but currently I would say indifferent due to the meds I'm on.
Gay trans man here!
Although I can see the uses in making up terms to define who you're attracted to, I dont like the idea of putting yourself in a box. Ive had straight friends get really confused when they find themselves attracted to the same sex, and gay friends get really confused when they find themselves attracted to the opposite sex. When you "join" a sexuality you dont sign a contract or anything. A while ago I figured out I was bisexual. It was pretty great for a while, cause I was able to figure myself out and feel more free because of it. I didnt feel guilty for having certain thoughts. However, eventually I started to have some problems with the label itself. In this day and age, what even is a man or a woman? Ive found myself being attracted to people that dont identify as either gender. And isnt gender supposed to be a societal construct? In that case, why do we care so much about it in the case of define sexual identities? Im no philosopher or social scientist, so I may just be talking out of my own ass here so forgive my ignorance. Nowadays whenever some asks me my sexuality (which by the way is a very weird thing to ask people you just met in real life) I always say "on a case by case basis".
Nunya.
Bisexual.
A gay dude ✨
Honest question: Why do you feel the need to categorize your sexuality? I myself am 40 years old and still don't know which category I fit in. What need/itch do you fill by naming this part of your persona?
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Panromantic ace, checking in. Welcome!
Transenby
Also a bi guy! Hi :)
Pan/Bi but strait passing... Mostly.
pan!
Complicated, but not.
Complicated because I have a strained relationship with sexuality after several years in a cult.
Not complicated because I'm married (17 years) and primarily identify as a lesbian. Probably "lesbian-attracted asexual" may be a better description?
Gender-wise, transfem demigirl (she/any).
Polyamorous biromantic demisexual
to answer the age old question, "da fuck is that?"
I'm into being in relationships with multiple people of multiple genders and I've got to really get to know someone before any sexual attraction starts.
Most of the time when people ask I just answer with Bi as the people asking are usually not interested in the nitty gritty details.
Demi cis. I'm tempted to add "doomed", but I won't.
I think the concept of sexuality needs to go away, tbh. I'm not straight because I am attracted to EVERY guy. And I'm not a lesbian because I am attracted to every woman. So what am I saying when I say that I am straight or gay?
The info I am giving then is who I am NOT attracted to. If I say I'm straight, I'm just saying 'I'm not attracted to women'. I'm not saying 'I'm attracted to every man.'
So I think the concept of sexuality is pretty stupid and everyone should just like whoever they like. It creates a lot of confusion otherwise, with straight and gay people worrying about whether they're 'doing sexuality right'. It's nonsense. Bin it.
I'm confused as to where you got the idea that having a sexuality means you're attracted to every single person of a certain sex. It just means that you can be attracted to people of that sex. I'm bisexual but I have standards, I'm not attracted to every person on earth. Sexuality categorization is useful to quickly contextualize discussions about sex and relationships in this world where heterosexual is assumed to be the default unless explicitly specified otherwise. Doing away with sexuality would only add confusion and wasted time. For example: looking for advice in gay dating but receiving advice about straight dating (that doesn't apply to gay dating because the cultures and dynamics are very different) when there's no terminology to tell them apart.
I'm only attracted to women, but I have an erogenous zone up my butt and I love getting blowjobs.
It's complicated.