When you keep making efforts to talk to them and they don't pursue the conversation.
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They want to spend $150 going out to eat when we could get 3 frozen pizzas and 30 beers for a bang date in the basement.
Man I used to love basement dates with strangers.
Easiest way to figure this out is to analyze your own behavior when interacting with people you're not interested in.
When they pass you in the hall at work, it's like you are invisible to them. Never any eye contact or acknowledgement that you exist, except for them not actually walking right into you.
I had a coworker who did this to me (and a fair amount of other people at work). She was young and pretty and had this approach to any guys a fair amount older than her. I wasn't trying to date her or even interact with her in any personal way...she just seemed to preemptively turn on her 'you are invisible' field to the many people she was not interested in. It was a bit odd, but effective.
I suspect that it was a defense mechanism due to her experience of many older men trying to hit on her. Better not to even open the door.
Short responses like "yeah" or "I'm good" with our any substance or depth, when it's over a extended period of time. Sometimes people do this because there overwhelmed or other things but when it's this all the time, then its a problem
When they keep making/having excuses why they are unavailable
The sneer thrown at you before you even speak