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Share some activities you've been interested in doing but couldn't do because you're closeted.

Transmasc, Transfem, Nonbinary, and Gender Non-Conforming answers are all welcome and encouraged here.

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[–] CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de 30 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (6 children)

Shaving. Now, that also does have something to do with low self-esteem and being scared about how I'd look without beard since I am bearded for half my life and didn't shave my face smooth since I was 16, but I'd like to try but then everybody and their mom would ask why and I don't want to answer (I'm a bad liar and don't feel comfortable lying, too).

Edit: I appreciate y'all wanting to help, but please stop. I didn't ask for advice, I'll probably eventually figure something out and I kinda feel pressured and pushed, it's really not great. Sharing your own experiences is fine, but more is really not needed (especially if you're suggesting coming up with excuses)

[–] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 21 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

"Because I want to" is a valid answer.

[–] CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It should be, but isn't exactly for my family. They're already completely losing their shit when I tap a toe outside my usual 'I wear black until there's something darker'-presentation.

[–] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

"I bought an electric razor to try it out and see if it's more efficient, but accidentally shore a giant hole in my beard and had to do damage control" is also a valid answer.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

That's how I ended up full-body shaving (feels so much better); got an electric on a whim, did a section, waited a day, did another section ~~clogged my tub drain~~ and said "fuck it", and did everything below the neck 😅

Hey, I'm just here after reading your edit, and I just want to say that you're totally valid.

I have a big bushy beard and I wear dresses and skirts and such. I know that I'm definitely in the minority, but fuck it, life's too short not to do what you want.

Ever since I was a kid I wanted a beard like my dad. Now that it's come fully in, I haven't shaved my face in a decade. It's at least as much a part of my identity as my femininity, and the two don't have to be mutually exclusive.

Anyway, I don't want to add to the pressure you're feeling. You're the only one who can say how you should live your life, and there's no wrong answers. But I've lived in the closet for a long time, and while I was there it might not have been comfortable, but it felt safe. But now that I'm out, I wouldn't trade it for anything.

[–] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Been there, done that. What helped me was two things.

  1. Finding out nobody cared that much about my beard missing, except some close friends/partner but they also know me

  2. Just saying "I wanted to try something new" which is definitely not a lie :3

Honestly shaving makes a huuge difference. Even now, a couple of months into hrt and permanent hair removal the difference a fresh shave makes for my self-recognition in the mirror is astounding!

[–] CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 2 weeks ago
  1. Finding out nobody cared that much about my beard missing, except some close friends/partner but they also know me

It's mostly about my family, especially my mom. She's a different kind of judgmental sometimes. And she's the last person I want to get a sniff about me changing in any way.

Honestly shaving makes a huuge difference.

I know... I'm happy it's long pants season again so I can shave my legs and it hits completely different.

I might shave my face, too, but only when I don't have to meet with my family for a few weeks so I can grow some of my beard back. After New Year is probably gonna be good time since it's probably scarf season anyway.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

When I shaved and people noticed, I just told them I used to shave that way or that I've always preferred it this way, and the only reason I had a beard before was because I was so busy for a while and stopped shaving to save time, so I was just getting back to my normal habits. You can probably find a similar excuse, that you have always preferred it this way and you're just getting back into it.

I should emphasize: men shave all the time, there is nothing suspicious about shaving your beard, hard stop.

[–] pooberbee@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago

Maybe keep trimming it shorter and shorter until it's gone?

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah, I kinda wanna try shaving off my beard as well. It'd be a bit problematic for me though, all my ID has me with a beard, and i look completely different without it (photo ID gets checked a lot for work). Whole reason I grew it was because it's so dense and grows so fast shaving smooth regularly was a pain in the ass.

[–] CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Does your beard grow quick though? But yeah, how much a full, thick beard changes your appearance is often underestimated.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

Yep. I'd have most of it back inside of 2 weeks.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 2 weeks ago

When I was closeted I often thought about transitioning as just a way for me to finally wear dresses and skirts in public that I was secretly wearing at home. And when considering whether to take things further, I would weigh all the downsides of transition (the cost, the social stigma, the danger, relying on exogenous hormones the rest of my life, etc.) against those benefits and it would make them seem not worth it.

But in retrospect, transition was different than I thought - estrogen changed my mood and solved mental health problems I didn't realize were even problems, that I had lived with my whole life and had internalized as normal and just part of who I was. I would have never understood how important or necessary transition would be to my basic health and sanity.

So yeah, now I get to make and wear amazing outfits every day I would have never dreamed of before, but that's not really what makes transition worth it, it's like a side bonus. The truth is that I needed those exogenous hormones, transition wasn't choosing to need them, I needed them the whole time. The need wasn't optional - in a real sense transition wasn't optional.

[–] 30p87@feddit.org 24 points 2 weeks ago

Ask the cute guy to cuddle :c

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 2 weeks ago
  • meet up with friends again
  • (sounds weird, but) plan my future and not be so short sighted.
  • Going climbing
  • Wear super cool clothing
  • Be gay <3 (and finding someone for me)
  • Remove the large towels from my mirrors (mostly a transition thing tho)
  • Maybe find interests which don't just serve as distractions from the status quo
  • Hopefully invest into a different career path
  • occasionally taking on an 'entertainer'-like character without it seeming naturally ~masculine~
[–] i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Change my name. Care about my future.

Personally I like my name, it's a very nice and ambiguous name. I definitely need to work on that second one though.

wear the clothes i like and be comfortable in my body

Voice training

[–] Pipster@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 weeks ago

I desperately want to do a spa day and get properly pampered...