Is it really that easy to get into another relationship when you're still in a relationship? How do people do it?
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Codependency is one hell of a drug.
As someone in an ENM relationship, no. If you're an awkward nerd who happened to hit it off with one person, you're still an awkward nerd when trying to hit it off with a second.
My thoughts exactly. Being in a relationship doesn't necessarily change the baseline of a person. Dating will probably still be the same.
It is well known that, when you're single nobody wants you, but the second you manage to fool someone into relationship with you, you're the most wanted man around.
I'm just speculating here based on my own experience, but I wonder if part of it is also something subtle in your attitude that others pick up on.
When I met the man who is now my husband, I wasn't even looking for a relationship. I was just enjoying my life, exploring new hobbies, and was in a good place mentally -- that is, I was fine if I ended up single for the rest of my life.
I imagine married people also tend to be in a similar frame of mind where they aren't looking for a relationship, and maybe there's a confidence that comes out of that that is attractive to others.
It's a well known myth, yes.
If you're a man, put on a wedding ring and go out to the bar and see for yourself. This may work if you're a woman too but I can not claim to have done the research on that one.
I have my dad's old wedding ring, I may try this. But the issue becomes I don't want to have a serious relationship with a woman who only likes me because she can "destroy my family" essentially (whether the "family" is fake or not.) Something seems seriously wrong with those people.
a body in motion remains in motion etc ...
So you say if I start fucking, I'll never stop?
Because being in a relationship means there's a higher probability of the person "having rizz", making it easier for them to move onto a new relationship, while being single for a while biases the sample towards people that are ~~toxic~~ single for a good reason.
if this observation is even accurate then an alternative explanation is just that people in relationships are more used to being emotionally available, more recently have practiced "relationshipping", and have a larger social circle.
Yeah. The more you do something, the better you get a it.