Transfem

I thought you were a cis woman tbh. Saw the image before I read the title.

Look, I’m gonna be real with you. It’s not that you don’t look like a woman, you just think that you’re ugly. You need to compliment and appreciate that woman in the mirror, even if she doesn’t fit your beauty standards. Like would you call another woman ugly or tell a transwoman she looks like a man? No. So don’t do that towards yourself. Easier said than done but worth the effort.

Being lonely and touch-starved is a real thing, and there’s no magic solution for that. Having pets can help, if you’re in a situation to get one. I’d also recommend some body-focused meditative and physical activities like yoga or tai-chi. It helps center yourself into your body and be aware of your own presence (which yeah, can increase the dysmorphia, but see above paragraph,) which can help reduce how overwhelming that loneliness and touch-starvation can be.

Based on that photo, I don't think you look like a man.

I wish I had curly hair like you, it's so cute

I thought you were posting in the wrong subreddit, upset that you don’t look like a man at first.

You uh, don’t look like a man. At all.

Hey Sky, I remember you posting in the past. I'm sorry you're still struggling with these issues. In line with most people here, I think you do look feminine but there's a lack of confidence probably stemming from a not-great relationship with your appearance.

I hope to add some new thoughts here. I have pretty similar hair to you. It can feel like a blessing and a curse, because it can look great but it's a lot of effort (especially from an AMAB perspective on haircare). I'm gradually learning more and more and it's one of the most gender-affirming things I have going for me. I think maybe if you can focus on liking a bit of your appearance more than you might start feeling a little better and more hopeful about your appearance overall. Here are some easier things you can try with your hair. It looks like you part your hair down the middle - try parting it on one side. Try a 'messy bun' with a ponytailer. Try some 'half up' big claw hairstyles. Feel free to let me know how it goes. Good luck, I'm rooting for you :)

for me i got a lot of confidence from trying a lot of different styles and finding what i felt most comfortable with. i did so much with my hair, different cuts (side shave was so fun), dyeing it, different methods of heat styling (for real, spending a bit of extra money on finding heating elements that cant physically burn your hair is SO worth it, i feel with my curly hair going for more even curls was the way to go, e.g. wrapping it around a conical element), digging through bras and bra types until i found the perfect kind for my body, etc. a lot of small things can add up to a greater whole.

two years is no time to be figuring out all these things that most women learn from being a kid to being mid 20s. i felt similarly after 2 yrs hrt, i felt like i was stuck.

Saying something unpopular here: I don't think that picture looks like "a cis woman" tbh. The hormones have definitely worked (if you aren't convinced I'd recommend comparing to a decent sized pre-HRT shot and really zoom in and compare details on facial features one at a time including things like preceived facial diameter, it's many details but they add up!) and you almost definitely don't want to drop the HRT unless your trying to physically detransition!

However, if we met on the street I'd immediately guess "trans-women" and looking at the picture I believe the reason for this unfortunately is facial bone structure, particularily the upper facial half: the forehead is rather steep and the brow ridge is on the more pronounced side as well. (Maybe also chin, but not a big deal really.) Unfortunately, this cannot be changed with surgery.

As others have pointed out this may not actually be the source of your problems, but if your disatisfied with your physical appearance, I think this may be the way to get remedy.

You do not look like a man. Just an opinion from a random boring cis male.

Sorry for necro-ing an old thread, hope I’m not being creepy - just reading old mtf threads to educate myself and couldn’t not say something.