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Is it morally wrong for a 18 year-old man to have sex with a 48-year-old woman (lemmy.ca)

submitted 6 months ago by TrenGoblin@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hypothetically speaking if I a 18 year old man paid a 48 year old woman to have sex with me and I wear a condom and we both consented to it is that morally wrong or is it morally okay?

In my opinion I think it's morally okay if a 18 year old man pays a 48 year old woman to have sex with him as long as they are both consenting to it. Because what they're doing is completely harmless.

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[–] oxjox@lemmy.ml 23 points 6 months ago

Morals are subjective.

Many people would say paying for sex is morally wrong, regardless of the age.
Many people would say an age gap this wide is morally wrong, regardless if it's in exchange for something.
Many people would say it's morally wrong to have sex out of wedlock, regardless of age or exchange.
Many people would say that two consenting adults is all that matters.
Some people would argue what "completely harmless" means.
And some people would argue over the legal or moral differences between "adult" and "of age".

What I would personally add to the conversation is that a condom has absolutely nothing to do with the situation when you're questioning what's "morally" right or wrong.

[–] Caligvla@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 6 months ago

No? If they're both consenting adults, I don't see the problem. The age gap might be somewhat awkward, but there's nothing inherently wrong with it.

[–] redrumBot@lemmy.ml 5 points 6 months ago

To pay for sex is a form of exploiting; the consent is not really free. There is no ethical consumption under capitalism, and I think that the exploitation of sex workers is one of the worst.

But morale is very subjective, and sex work is a very complex matter, where a lot of people, most of them women, work in very dangerous conditions and in situations of extreme need.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

It'd be morally wrong to pass up the opportunity. As a man in his 40s let me tell you, women this age are amazing. Like fine wine.

[–] zippythezigzag@lemm.ee 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

There will always be people that have a problem with every moral issue. It's really just up to the parties involved as long as nobody is being coerced, abused, or hurt in any way it's fine.

[–] TrenGoblin@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

So would you also say that it's morally okay for a 16-year-old to have sex with a 21 year old as long as 16 year old is consenting to it and is not being coerced, abuse, or hurt in anyway by the 21 year old?

Because in my opinion I think it is morally okay for a 16 year old to have sex with a 21 year old as long as the 16 year old is consenting to it and the 21 year is not coercing, abusing or hurting the 16-year-old in anyway because what they're doing is completely harmless.

[–] zippythezigzag@lemm.ee 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I know you're just trolling but that is literally a form of child abuse. You would lose in any court in most countries. Also, please never have kids.

[–] TrenGoblin@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 months ago

I don't want to have any kids and I do not want to have a girlfriend either. I just want to pay women who are older than me to have sex with me.
The age of consent in most countries is 16 so a 21 year old would not lose in court as long as the 16 year old is consenting to it

[–] Johanno@feddit.de 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Ok now hypothetically:

As long both are fully aware of the consequences of having sex and consent then it would be fine (for any age)

Reality: age of consent exists for the reason that children and teenagers won't be able to make a fully thought through decision. Even if they think they can. Some humans may be able to do so before the legal age and some maybe not after the age of 18.

It would be difficult to determine each humans ability to make decisions so they just said 18 should be sufficient.

[–] TrenGoblin@lemmy.ca 1 points 6 months ago

But in reality the age of consent in most countries is 16 which means that teenagers who are 16 and older can consent to have sex with whoever they want.