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For me it was these.

"A focused fool can accomplish more than a distracted genius"

"Until the lion learns to write, every story will glorify the hunter"

These two quotes really helped get my @** in gear.

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 55 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

"The first thing that jumps to your mind isn't always what you truly think. Sometimes, it's just what you've been trained to think. What matters, is what you do next"

I grew up in a really racist, queerphobic environment, and that comment really helped me by letting me give myself space to undo the bigoted indoctrination I had been taught, without getting trapped in guilt and self disgust whenever one of the racist or bigoted things I was raised with jumped in to my mind.

It let me recognise the bigoted thought as something I was trained to think, rather than being what I actually believe, and by recognising it, I could disempower the thought, and start to unlearn it

[–] TVgog56789@lemy.lol 11 points 8 months ago

That's a powerful thought.

Conditioning significantly influences our psyche.

These thoughts that are the result of conditioning are like knee jerk reactions.

Our brain is designed to conserve energy so it actually prioritises conditioned knee jerk reactions rather than introspective thoughts.

One needs significant amount of training to bypass this process.

[–] youngalfred@lemm.ee 24 points 8 months ago

"Everyone you know is facing a battle you know nothing about. Be kind always."

[–] d3Xt3r@lemmy.nz 17 points 8 months ago

"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
    - Ferris Bueller, from the movie Ferris Bueller's Day Off.

[–] otacon239@feddit.de 15 points 8 months ago (2 children)

“You cannot love someone else until you love yourself.”

My dad raised me on this. If don’t see yourself worthy of love from even yourself, you’ll never be able to accept it from someone else. Healthy love is mutual. Also, this ties back into the idea that if you don’t see yourself worthy of love, it means you need to work on yourself until you do rather than trying to fill that gap with someone else.

[–] Zikeji@programming.dev 4 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I found that same nugget just under a decade ago. Dropped off the dating scene to work on myself. It really made me reflect. I'm still working on myself and honestly I suspect I will be for a while to come.

[–] otacon239@feddit.de 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

It took me over 6 years after my first serious relationship to really start figuring myself out and getting in tune with who I really was. I’m definitely still on the path and I realize more and more why my last relationship ended. It really was the best thing for me at the time.

[–] Zikeji@programming.dev 7 points 8 months ago

When I first came across that wisdom I realized my desire in a relationship was to just pour myself into the other person, basically worship them. But not for their benefit, but to distract myself from myself. It's fairly easy to see how that goes wrong.

I'm still learning, and I've found even more stuff I need to work on, but either I get there or I don't, what matters if I never stopped trying.

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[–] ___@lemm.ee 2 points 8 months ago

Similarly. You cannot forgive yourself until your forgive your transgressor. Pent up anger is no god for your health.

[–] Marty_TF@lemmy.zip 15 points 8 months ago

a tumblr meme about replacing self deprecating humor with over the top self belief humor.

not even kidding, was doomscrolling, this jumped into my feed and burnt itself into my brain and 4 years of doing precisely that later, i'm better than ever and it's also just a way to break the ice sometimes.

[–] tfowinder@lemmy.ml 14 points 8 months ago (2 children)

This saying in my local tounge

Which roughly translates to

"You small, I big , this thought of world is incorrect, A Thirsty man feels the the ocean is smaller than than a glass of fresh water"

Imagine above is a really Catchy rhyming.

I don't think anyone will understand but here it is in local tounge trying to write the sound in English.

Tu nano, hu moto, e khyal jagat no koto. Tarsa ne to dariya karta loto lage moto.

[–] xilliah 6 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

I'm unfamiliar with your language, so take this attempt at translation with a grain of salt:

You are small and I am big, this is but a fantasy of the world. For thirst is larger than the vastness of the ocean.

It's likely a metaphor for how any desire (thirst) is infinite (ocean) and cannot be satiated. By trying to resolve your desire it will only grow and increase your suffering.

This further ties into the illusionary nature of worldly matters in the first sentence. For example if you desire say friends, money, knowledge, or anything else, you'll likely have more of that than others, which makes you feel big. However these desires have grown into a prison for you, and that actually makes you smaller than someone who has found liberation from them, who might otherwise appear lonely, poor, or ignorant.

[–] Cwilliams 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] xilliah 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Chatgpt4, Wikipedia, Google translate, and an hour of my time.

[–] tfowinder@lemmy.ml 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

You can look it that way too but the meaning we try to say in my culture is that.

No man is above another man, when you need help than smallest of the person can be the most valuable person in the world. Hence the idea of "I am above you" is incorrect, a small person can be more helpful than a big person.

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[–] Achyu@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

Does it mean that one shouldn't think of others as small or inferior? That one is seeing others as small because of their thirst for(or lack of access to) power or so?

Which language is this in? Some words seem familiar. Hindi(an Indian language) has the word khayal(thought).

[–] tfowinder@lemmy.ml 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

It means no person it more valuable than other. When you need help of someone he is the most valuable to you no matter how small he is.

Overall idea is that everyone has their own place in world and no one is above anyone else

[–] Achyu@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 8 months ago

Cool. Quite realistic

[–] tfowinder@lemmy.ml 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] Achyu@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Thank you.
Is Gujarati similar to Hindi? Script similar to Devnagiri script n all?

[–] tfowinder@lemmy.ml 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

It's similar in sound but in written form the individual characters are different.

Some characters are identifiable by their similar shapes but many are different,

Aa - આ -

Pa - પ

Ra - ર

India - ઇન્ડિયા

Bharat - ભારત

[–] Achyu@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 8 months ago
[–] Berny23@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 8 months ago

When I started my now mostly unused school laptop with dualboot (Windows/Debian) at 3 AM in the basement to solve a router issue. This pretty cheap laptop booted in mere seconds to a completely usable state, sparing my tired self from waiting in the cold for too long.

Right there, in the middle of the night, a flash of inspiration struck me!

How could it be that my way too expensive desktop gaming PC took longer to be ready for everything than this old piece of plastic? What if I completely switched my main machine to Linux, not only for testing, but for real? How awesome would it be to have customization freedom and full control over my own device, without a company spying on me, taking away options or using me as their guinea pig for the next untested updates?

And that's how it began. Linux Mint as a safe start, then Kubuntu for more customization with KDE Plasma. After that, EndeavourOS for the latest software, and finally Arch Linux ... for the lulz (btw).

[–] roawre@feddit.ch 8 points 8 months ago

I am not older than you, i just have been young longer

[–] Yerbouti@lemmy.ml 7 points 8 months ago

" I use Arch btw."

[–] TheyHaveNoName 6 points 8 months ago

I’ve always prided myself on being empathetic and sympathetic to people no matter what. During the me too times, a lady was being interviewed about why survivors and victims don’t go to the authorities about their treatment from (men) powerful people.

She said something along the lines of “stand with us if you want things to change, but don’t you dare stand opposite to tell me how offended I’m allowed to be”. In an instant I realised I’d been guilty of minimizing the suffering of others simply because I’d not been through what they’d been through (in a sense - if I wouldn’t be offended why should they?). Changed my whole outlook on life actually

[–] phorq@lemmy.ml 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

As someone with anxiety: "the best way out is always through" - Robert Frost

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 5 points 8 months ago

"If you're going thru hell, keep going"

[–] clark@midwest.social 6 points 8 months ago

”Do you miss the person or do you miss the memories?”

It really helps me get over friendship breakups and cope in a more reasonable way, since most of the time I just miss the memories associated with the person.

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 5 points 8 months ago

Starting listening to podcasts is what has probably made the biggest change in how I see the world. It's difficult to single out any individual thing from there but one worth mentioning would be the realization of no free will. It's quite a different looking world once you realize that things happen because of other things that happened in the past - not because an agent with free will just decided to do so.

[–] cousinofjah 5 points 8 months ago

"Do what you can, where you are, with what you've got." - Teddy Roosevelt

"There's a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in." - Leonard Cohen

"Perfect is the enemy of good." - unknown

"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering." - Yoda

[–] feinstruktur@lemmy.ml 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

"Erfahrung heißt gar nichts. Man kann seine Sache auch 35 Jahre lang schlecht machen." - Kurt Tucholsky

Which DeepL translates to

"Experience means nothing. You can do a bad job for 35 years."

Not strictly life changing, but a very valuable reminder, if you need to deal with 'that' kind of person.

[–] coffinwood@feddit.de 2 points 8 months ago

This and the difference between decades of experience and experience that's decades old.

Sometimes a person that's 30 years in a field or profession just managed to avoid getting fired for 30 years.

[–] Pulptastic@midwest.social 4 points 8 months ago

This is a very brief summary of my 2 year MBA: business school is the scientific method applied to business.

[–] chmod777@lemm.ee 1 points 8 months ago

The mind is the athlete.

[–] xilliah 1 points 8 months ago

If we could understand but a flower it could change our life.

[–] scott@lem.free.as 1 points 8 months ago

"Lead, follow or get out of the way."