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Pretty horrible. Wife wants a divorce and is unwilling to try and fix things. Barely communicates with me at all.
I met my stepson when he was 9 months old. He's 11 now. I'm the only father he knows. I'm devastated, because not only am I losing my wife, but I'm also losing my son, as I have no legal right to him. I'm estranged from the rest of my family, so the world is looking pretty cold and lonely from here.
If you have talked to a lawyer who has said that you have no legal right to see your stepson, it's worth talking to a different lawyer. If you have not talked to a lawyer, talk to a lawyer ASAP. Specifically, a lawyer that's at least familiar with the 4-part test in the Wisconsin Supreme Court case In re H.S.H-K. that shows a parent-like relationship. Even if you cannot afford to hire one to represent you, go for a one-time consultation.
Most states recognize that it's bad for children to rip them away from people that are like parents to them, and courts will order visitation. Many state courts have adopted Wisconsin's 4-part test, or have their own, similar doctrines. And these are strong arguments, with lots of jurisprudence behind them, that are worth raising in any divorce proceeding.
I'm not a lawyer, but I was a legal assistant at a family law firm. I saw too many men convinced that the courts were biased against fathers, so they didn't even try to fight for their kids. The men who did try (even without a lawyer) generally got custody, placement, or visitation to stay connected to their kids. In one case that sticks with me, we won court-ordered placement for a man who found out that his daughter with his ex-girlfriend wasn't his biological daughter after the ex wanted to cut him out of her life, and they did a paternity test. Even though they weren't married, and he had no biological or legal connection to the child, the court recognized the parent-like relationship, and found that it was in her best interest to continue it.
I guess what I'm saying is, don't conclude that you will lose your stepson unless and until a court says so.
Not too bad, but could be better.
A funny story about my not so great love life: just matched with a girl on Tinder which I managed to have engaging text discussions with and it felt quite genuine. This is rare for me, so I was happy about it.
Well, in the end it became obvious to me it was just a pig butchering romance scam when she started to talk about how she can help me invest in cryptocurrency.
I guess Iβm going to be a failure in love life for a bit longer lol.
I saw this and my first thought was: oh no Elmo, that's not a great thing to ask the internet....
Elmo thinks it's important to be careful on the internet and only ask appropriate questions. Elmo wants everyone to stay safe and have a positive online experience!
My almost-two-year-old dog is expected to die very suddenly from cancer at any time. She's the sweetest thing. I've even felt guilty that I've thought she's going to be a better dog (for me) than my older dog is, who is wonderful. But she'll never have the chance.
Meanwhile, my husband can't deal with the occasional accident her cancer is causing and is threatening not to get another dog, knowing full well that planning for the next dog is what keeps me going because my life is ruled by chronic health problems and I live for my dogs.
Edit: I guess the more succinct answer would be: Have you ever cried so hard you started to vomit?
My kitty died at 1.5y from something that wasnβt cancer, but the vet said it works like cancer. My heart aches for you. It took about a year to stop being sad and remember him being happy. Iβm sure youβve given your pup a good home. Enjoy what time you have left and youβll eventually remember the happy times.
Thank you. That's what I'm trying to do. She's been very spoiled.
Honestly, I'd like to go to sleep right now. But otherwise, I'm excited and ready to fuckin' go...after a good night's sleep. Et tu, OP?
This time last year I would've said something completely different but I'm confident to say I'm now doing well. Of course not the best but well
Its sad that these types of posts are always accompanied by a waterfall of unwell people.
Everyone is sad and stressed out man, we deserve better.
I'm waiting for a kidney.
other than that, ehh. the world turns, the wind blows, and life goes on. same as it ever was.
Great. I razzle dazzled a couple higher ranked people at work today, and the fruits were that I get to present one of my projects to the top tech brass at our company next week. My new phone arrived. And I have a 2 day LAN party coming up this weekend.
Not doing good.
How are you?
Pretty lucky. Let go from a bad job that had downsizing. Got a better job. Moved in with my partner. She loves my kitties. Very fortunate and grateful. Itβs been very bad, so this is something Iβd never expected.
As the saying goes, there will be ups and there will be downs. Remember that it will go back up, even when it seems like it will only be down. Itβs hard to do, but please try.
Could be worse but could be better.
If the negative aspects were gone though, my week would be golden.
I got laid off in early january, however I am getting a good settlement package, and have been to sveral interviews, so far I have rejected one position, and are working on others.
My car has a weird fault where if I drive it for long distances, then park and lock it it can quickly discharge the 12v battery and leave me stranded, getting that looked at next week, right now I feel like I can't trust it, and keep wondering if it will unlock when I press the button. It is a 2021 Seat Leon so it feels strange that it has this fault so early in it's life.
So yeah, this is what I am dealing with
I had COVID the day after Christmas and still feeling crappy. Idk don't know if this is nornal. Doctors can't find anything wrong with me.
At this very moment I need to take a break from work to lie down and take a nap, I am completely out of energy. I had strong headaches yesterday the whole day.
I just need this to end, I want to have my life back.
Not great. Just had a lumbar puncture and feeling pukey.
Huge opportunities are happening in my career but the stress of getting to that point and moving all the way across the country for it is about to fucking do me in. Coping with it but the cracks are starting to show. Thank God for my wife. She is all the support I will ever need but I'm worried she's going to crack sooner or later as well.
Can't concentrate at work, and so stressed that food doesn't seem friendly.
But maybe things will work out this evening. Either that, or it'll get much worse. Definitely feeling at a crossroads.
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