Because remembering 'what was' leads to contemplation on 'what could have been', which often makes us regret 'what is'. It is this regret which we most fear. It is essentially a fear of having missed out. Since Lemmy seems to be going classic memes, imagine the Bad News Bear meme saying, "it only gets worse with age." Seriously. It sucks.
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I've been wondering the same for a long time. For example I almost never listen to music from when I was younger.
Sure it could be trauma like some have suggested in this thread, but I'm pretty sure that's not the case with me. For one thing I can't say my childhood was traumatic, and besides I feel the same thing for any given time period in my life (I'm over 40 years old).
I think it's because:
- It's a strong feeling. Even if it's a positive feeling, it can be difficult to deal with if it's too intense.
- It makes you realize how many other pathways your life could have taken. Every choice you've made since has limited the options you have for the future. What if you made the wrong choice? What have you missed? Could you have been happier in an alternate universe? You're closer to death now than you were then. Time is running out.
Mindfulness meditation has helped me deal with it. It helps me explore feelings, good or bad, with interest (but detachment) instead of being consumed by anxiety. It has helped me internalize that I can always begin again. I'm not tied down by previous choices. Every day is full of opportunities.
Because they mark the inevitable passage of time.
You mean feel?
Many of us fear feeling too deeply. I'd guess that is why so many of us escape into things that take us away from reality: soap operas/entertainment TV; drugs, alcohol, other addictions such as promiscuous sex that could hurt us, gambling, compulsive shopping that ruins our finances, etc. An online friend introduced me to vippassanna and sent me a wonderful poetic one-page article about it (lost it) and that helped a lot. Taoism and stoicism has similar teachings or thinking. It helps.
I feel like nostupidquestion is more appropuate for this question