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If it were me, I'd be wearing thigh highs and/or panties under my boyclothes >:)
But to answer your question:
Painting nails, a classic.
Cleaning, trimming and filing nails to make them look nice.
Relaxing in a nice long bath.
Shaving or otherwise removing body hair.
Put a ribbon or flower in your hair!
Gosh now I regret forcing myself not to buy thigh highs or skirts or anything until I lose weight hehehe~
The comfy warm bath and shaving session does sound perrrrfect though, all the steam and soft girl smells (:
If you're going to do your nails, treat yourself to a crystal/glass file. They don't cost loads (I got a "Mont Bleu" set of 3 off amazon for less than £10, they look like this😏) but seriously - not only are they so much smoother to use, they really help stop them breaking and fraying as much at the tips, so they can grow longer and stronger!
I know from experience gaining and losing weight that my legs aren't getting smaller. I've bought some of my bottoms with stretchiness and ties so they are one size too big but fit fine, and just hoping my jeans that are one size too big can get shrunk by bathing with them on in hot water, or whatever. My one skirt has an elastic waistband. You could consider it once you're feeling girly and taken care of.
Ngl I wouldn't do that for a partner. Not a chance. I don't have family in my life. No future partners of mine will meet my family. I don't have to meet my partners' families. I wouldn't make myself miserable for two weeks minimum for any family. Not a chance I would do this. You say "when I am safe again." I wouldn't be with a partner who wanted me to feel like that for their comfort.
In this regard I am fortunate in that I am still very early in my transition, my girl voice is very bad and embarrassing, I can't really present feminine yet, I still have a very long way to go. So it's uncomfy to pretend nothing is going on, but it's not gonna really hurt me.
I don't think I'll be visiting them again after this time though.
I'm an autonomy maximalist. If you think this is right for you, do it. It's just a wild idea to me. For me, it was a door that, once opened, could not be closed.
How do I draw such a bold line in the sand as you? My pre-HRT transition so far has been full of compromises, slowing the pace, of course not starting hormones, and I'm sort of... Queermoding, like I'm visibily queer but not trying to pass, either, and going by a gender neutral name and male pronouns rather than just being honest. I'm in the east coast US, there is no safety issue. My Mom is my only family, and she accepts me, but makes me extremely miserable.
Styling my hair with a clip, ribbon, or scarf hits the spot for me.
I have recently discovered an invention. It covers blemishes, wrinkles, and has been known to at least one person to help with self-confidence. I call it "makeup."
Joking aside, I'm starting to find that incorporating makeup into my morning routine helps with my self-image and confidence. And a little goes a long way! A bit of foundation or concealer, some eyeshadow, some blush, a touch of lipstick, and in 20 or so minutes, you'll look fabulous! I've only applied it to myself a few times, but getting some help from my kids and some new friends has helped me a lot!
If you aren't comfortable with makeup yet, I suggest finding a few trusted friends to paint you up and give you some pointers, if you haven't already!
Lately its been skincare :) doing my daily routine makes me feel fresh bright and girly. Ive gotten really into it and the difference it makes on your face is amazing! Just taking good care of myself and my body makes me feel very feminine. Doing my hair every day, picking out my outfits, taking good care of my teeth. Investing time and energy into me. It feels good, and I try my best to do it each day.
