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Another reason to leave Reddit: I forgot how hostile it can be (self.chat)

submitted 1 year ago by xray to c/chat

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I've mostly left reddit and switched to beehaw, but I posted on somewhat of a niche tech-related subreddit today since there really isn't a community for that here yet. And wow, I got instantly downvoted twice and the first comment response was rude and hostile. All I posted was a feature suggestion for software that I thought would be useful and that a good amount of people would like based on other feedback I've heard. This is not the sort of topic that should be controversial or aggravating, and it wasn't like I made an ignorant post suggesting a feature that already existed or otherwise wasn't well researched.

This type of instantly hostile response has happened numerous times on reddit for various different topics, but I just haven't posted for a while, so I forgot just how shitty it can feel. It makes me really appreciate how friendly and respectful the community is here on Beehaw and on Mastodon. People seem to have good faith in one another similar to how the internet used to be in the old days.

Have you had similar experiences with Reddit and similarly opposite experiences here on Beehaw/Lemmy?

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[–] BendyBee 4 points 1 year ago

It's not a matter of being overly respectful really - it's the culture of being shit scared to say anything which someone might find offensive. Sometimes you want to be comfortable enough to just be friendly with strangers, and hope that they will take things in the spirit they were intended...

Reddit is one of two sites (the other being a private tracker, the 'cappers' of which are a very very touchy breed - if you even suggest that it wouldn't be difficult for them to name their files in a logical manner they throw hissy fits and threaten to quit... so that everyone simply SIMPS over them and worships the ground they walk on.

The difference being that if you upset someone on Reddit you get cut off for a few days. It's a painful addiction - it's like a 20 per day smoker being forced to go cold turkey for 3 days, and then being allowed to smoke again until the next cold turkey.

I guess I'm waiting to see if I actually encounter the toxic behaviour I heard people have seen in the Fediverse - I'm sure it's out there, but really I'm mostly happy that it isn't any longer part of the second most evil organization on earth...

Google being the first, and Reddit being the second... I'm hoping to see alternative search engines catch up ASAP (I used SearXNG to get a 'blend' for a year already) but there are many other issues which need sorting out.

Fediverse is a nice start.