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Another reason to leave Reddit: I forgot how hostile it can be (self.chat)

submitted 1 year ago by xray to c/chat

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I've mostly left reddit and switched to beehaw, but I posted on somewhat of a niche tech-related subreddit today since there really isn't a community for that here yet. And wow, I got instantly downvoted twice and the first comment response was rude and hostile. All I posted was a feature suggestion for software that I thought would be useful and that a good amount of people would like based on other feedback I've heard. This is not the sort of topic that should be controversial or aggravating, and it wasn't like I made an ignorant post suggesting a feature that already existed or otherwise wasn't well researched.

This type of instantly hostile response has happened numerous times on reddit for various different topics, but I just haven't posted for a while, so I forgot just how shitty it can feel. It makes me really appreciate how friendly and respectful the community is here on Beehaw and on Mastodon. People seem to have good faith in one another similar to how the internet used to be in the old days.

Have you had similar experiences with Reddit and similarly opposite experiences here on Beehaw/Lemmy?

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[–] LinkOpensChest_wav 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It got so bad on reddit that I would hope my posts wouldn't hit the front page of a sub, and often when I'd comment I'd immediately disable inbox replies.

Someone in another community linked an archived reddit thread, and the unnecessary hostility and toxicity were readily apparent since I hadn't been on reddit for a while.

What's scary is how I started to feel numb to it and even feel like I started to become like that myself.

[–] xray 6 points 1 year ago

Oh man, that’s intense. I know what you mean about that kind of hostility fostering more hostility even within yourself. It’s not a good environment for anyone.

[–] GhostMagician 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I got into the habit of disabling notification of comments and posts of anything I submitted back on reddit. Didn't feel like getting caught in a chain of arguments.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav 6 points 1 year ago

Sometimes I'd feel exhausted just imagining the potential arguments that even my most milquetoast comments would often attract.