I like what Isopod did, linking them directly to a instance.
The only way to catch the average joe is to hold their hand and get them to content as quickly as possible. While linking them to the largest instances may not be the healthiest for decentralization, it's going to give newcomers the best experience.
A lot of redditors, I'd even say the majority now-a-days, use the app. While a lot of the Lemmy apps are great. I wish there was one that guided you through the entire signup process.
I think "Lemmy Federate" fixed the main problem small instances have (Not federating as much communities as the big ones), at least for those instances that have it enabled. Why do you think the biggest instances give the best experience?
I can agree with the last part tho, would be cool if there was an app that would do that
Stability, support, features, discoverability maybe? You're right there isn't much of a difference now. Thinking through it, I could probably retract that statement.