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[โ€“] Lumidaub@feddit.org 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

The point is to help this person temporarily alleviate a problem they have, whatever that problem may be. If you don't want to do this, fine, but if you're only willing to give money if they use that money in ways that you deem wholesome, that's patronising.

[โ€“] akkajdh999@programming.dev 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

help this person temporarily alleviate a problem they have

And you mean drinking fucking alcohol lmao. Yeah it's gonna made them feel better for a minute, sure, lol. And fuck them up even worse after that. It's like giving drugs to drug addicts, wtf.

in ways that you deem wholesome, that's patronising.

No onre said "wholesome". If so, trying to help honeless people is "patronozing" then generally. Goverment is "partonizing". Organizations that want to help them are "patronizing".

People on lemmy are SO deranged.

[โ€“] Lumidaub@feddit.org 1 points 2 hours ago

The problem is that you are convinced they're going to buy drugs. You do not know that person, it is not your place to decide that.

No, I do not agree that simply offering help is patronising.