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There's a saying in my mother tongue that goes like "say what you want, hear what you don't". Even in situations where you need to have a more coarse tone, having some level of finesse to the words sent would help not just in not getting sanctioned, but also on getting past people's defenses more easily.
That shit NEVER works. Especially online, just for being a goodie 2 shoes online nobody is going to be "oh yeah you're right, I apologise and I'll change my ways" life isn't a Disney movie
Finesse doesn't mean bowing down to everyone. And indeed, expecting people to put their egos aside, at least quickly, is unrealistic, and even if the person takes in the points later on, chances of admitting are also low. But for example, if the person is clearly aggressive by his/her discourse, specially when including swear words, people tend to close down to whatever the first person is trying to say, or even respond proportionally aggressively.