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Please don't think I'm here to complain about rizz or skibidi toilet etc. Thats all fine by me.

The term I dislike strongly is 'eeeh' before you make a statement disagreeing with someone. (This is over text only). Now maybe I've been pavloved bc it's always used by someone disagreeing. But I'm happy with people disagreeing with me normally its just the 'eeeh' or 'erm' that annoys me.

So what's a random term that annoys you?

PS. Saying "eeeh actually 'eeh' is a perfectly fine term" would be a ridiculously easy joke and I will judge you for making it. And I know atleast one person will. Especially bow that I've said all this.

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[–] ristoril_zip@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 week ago (4 children)

"cis" I feel like it's an extra term for "straight". The "default" for lack of a better term (and one that isn't othering) is near the not trans & not gay part of the gender / sexuality spectra. To me everyone in that zone is "straight" (boring/default/whatever).

"begs the question" because people exclusively use it wrong. Just say "leads to the question" or "poses the question."

And I'm still really salty about everyone giving up on the term "literally" to allow it to mean its exact opposite.

[–] moonlight@fedia.io 15 points 1 week ago

The "default" for lack of a better term

There is a better term, it's 'cis'

[–] UngodlyAudrey 10 points 1 week ago

There are plenty of cis gay folks. "Straight" just doesn't work if you're trying to describe non-trans people.

[–] davel@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)
  • There are two kinds of races, white and political.
  • There are two kinds of gender identities, male and political.
  • There are two kinds of sexual attractions, straight and political.
  • There are two kinds of gender congruences, cis and political.

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“Cis” is not an extra term for straight any more than “trans” is. These terms have nothing to do with sexual orientation. If you can handle the word “straight,” as opposed to “boring/default/whatever,” then you can also handle the word “cis” by the same logic.

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 week ago

I find "cis" useful, personally. I'm bisexual, so certainly "straight" isn't applicable. In a lot of contexts I'd use "cis" to refer to myself, I suppose "not trans" would also work, but it'd be clunkier.

Plus, there are times when the thing I want to centre in my communication is the cisgender perspective that I have. For example, I was recently discussing with a friend that seeing trans friend's gender euphoria improved my own relationship to my gender because it made me ask myself whether cis people could experience gender euphoria and if so, why couldn't I recall any instances of experiencing it?

I feel like the term "cisgender" implicitly acknowledges that voices and experiences like mine are important in building a shared understanding of gender — i.e. trans people aren't the only ones who have a gender. Like, obviously I can't speak directly about trans experiences, but that doesn't mean that I'm expected to shut up and contribute nothing to the wider conversation.