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For me, it was that the Internet never forgets and that you should never enter your real name. In my opinion, both of these rules are now completely ignored.

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[–] Pyflixia@kbin.melroy.org 2 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I'm a faithful follower of never using your real name in social parts of the internet. We don't need to know and we don't want to know. The only ones who would want to know are scammers or people wanting to give you a shitty time. I only use my real name online for people and places in where it's required like talking to agents from my bank, insurance .etc And very few friends know my real name through FB and the circle anyways.

Don't send nudes online to anybody. I know of some communities where people happily are flaunting it one moment then they make a post later whining about them being exploited or that they thought they were crafty hiding the nudes from someone they're married with. They delete it but they're too naive to think that what's already out there, has most likely been saved by hundreds by now, so you're fucked either way.

Another is, is that if you want to be understood, then you need to use proper spelling and grammar. I miss the days when you got kicked at because you used 'u' in replacement of 'you'. It's just two fucking extra letters you lazy asshole. These days saying stupid shit like; 'yah fr u tha fam' is somehow a complete sentence. No, I'm going to give you shit for it and if you want me to bother caring with what you have to say, fucking make some sense. I don't even get offended by insults when they're poorly spelled, it just tells me what kind of an inept moron you are.

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I'm a faithful follower of never using your real name in social parts of the internet. We don't need to know and we don't want to know.

Corollary: there are no girls on the Internet. The simplest way to promote gender equality is to not disclose gender in arbitrary conversation or in the profile. If you still do in an anonymous forum, you are likely trying to take advantage of privileges that the patriarchal societal structure offers you in that situation, and in doing so you are upholding it.

[–] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

But then nobody can use gendered neopronouns.

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Which IMO is a good thing. I don't mind people having their own identity, but if nobody tracks pronouns (including traditional pronouns) then life becomes easier for everyone and there's less drama. We need fewer pronouns, not more.

[–] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That sounds like something an agender person who just assumed they were cis because they went with the flow and never much thought about it would say.

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

It's just something a person who wants to see everyone as a unique individual instead of putting them in a box says. Doesn't matter if it's about skin color, gender, age, etc. Make it okay to be somewhere vague on a multidimensional spectrum instead of having to make everything black or white. In the end none of these factors even matter when we're discussing which Bionicle is best.

No, I'm not "assuming I'm cis". I'm trying not to assume, period. I don't need a label to know who I'm attracted to and it's none of your business either.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

yah fr u tha fam

The only abbreviations in that are fr and u. Fam is slang for family, not a text only abbreviation. "Tha" is just a transcription of how someone may say "the". Like "da bomb". "Yah" is either a typo of "yeah" or the same as "tha". This feels more like an insult against people transcribing vernacular literally. Are you racist?

[–] Pyflixia@kbin.melroy.org 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yes I am racist. I'm racist to stupid fucks who deliberately twist contexts around to fit a projected narrative of theirs, you asshole.

You're the one bringing the race into this, not me. This is simply a response. Let me remind you, since your braincells are in single digits, that this is a response to something you brought into the discussion that wasn't otherwise warranted. Get a fucking clue.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Did you watch the clip? It's clearly tongue in cheek. Way to self report though, jeez.

[–] 01011@monero.town 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I'm with you on the no real names, no nudes. "Don't dox yourself" was the norm pre-Myspace. Facebook made it almost fashionable to do so.

I'm fine with shorthand and colloquialisms, especially in the era of the smartphone and their lack of physical keyboards.

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Facebook made it almost fashionable to do so.

"

Zuck: yea so if you ever need info about anyone at harvard just ask

Zuck: i have over 4000 emails, pictures, addresses, sns

Friend: what!? how’d you manage that one?

Zuck: people just submitted it

Zuck: i don’t know why

Zuck: they β€œtrust me”

Zuck: dumb fucks

"

One of many sources

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago

I'm fine with shorthand and colloquialisms, especially in the era of the smartphone and their lack of physical keyboards.

It wasn't even cool once t9 emulation came in. But writing with no regard for the audience, that's apparently eternal.

Put in the effort or eat the down-votes.

[–] Emerald@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 month ago

Yeah, for real. You're the family.