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It often surprises me to see people with time, money, and knowledge settling for subpar experiences that have night and day differences to me. Even at my brokest (pretty darn broke), speakers, headphones, and glasses were always worth researching and some saving up, and the difference between what I'd end up with and the average always feels like it paid off tenfold.

I've got a surprising number of friends/acquaintances who just don't seem to care, though, and I am trying to understand if they just don't experience the difference similarly or if they don't mind. I know musicians who just continue using generation 1 airpods or the headphones included with their phone, birdwatchers who don't care about their binoculars, people who don't care if they could easily make their food taste better, and more examples of people who, in my opinion, could get 50% better results/experiences by putting in 1% more thought/effort.

When I've asked some friends about it, it sounds as much like they just don't care as they don't experience the difference as starkly as I do, but I have a hard time understanding that, as it's most often an objective sensory difference. Like I experience the difference between different pairs of binoculars and speakers dramatically, and graphical analysis backs up the differences, so how could they sound/look negligibly different to others? Is it just a matter of my priorities not being others' priorities, or do they actually experience the difference between various levels of quality as smaller than I seem to? What's your take on both major and, at the high end, diminishing returns on higher quality sensory experiences?

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[โ€“] MorrisonMotel6@lemm.ee 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

It's also possible people just don't care about those details, so they're not primed to notice them. For example, another difference between my wife and I: she's into sunsets, clouds, the moon, and celestial happenings. She's constantly in awe about these things, points them out to me, and talks about them all the time. It's cute; I love that about her. However, I really couldn't care much less about any of it. For me, that kind of stuff happens all the time (every day, in the case of sunsets). It's not novel or interesting to me in the same way as it is to her. We all have things we nerd out about, and I think the world would be kind of boring if we all only cared about the same stuff.

Really, my only regret about this situation is that I want to give my wife the gift of feeling like I do when I hear music and when I notice the details, and I know she wants to give me that gift of the way she feels when there's a really cool cloud or sunset. It's very fulfilling to share feelings like that with someone you care about, and it's sad to me that we sometimes can't.

[โ€“] Please_Do_Not@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Yeah that's my biggest bummer, too, both in wanting to share the experience and wanting support in dropping some cash on a pair of headphones or something lol.

[โ€“] MorrisonMotel6@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

This is pretty much our situation

I sent this to her a long time ago, and now we call my hobbies (home improvement/woodworking/audio) "my Legos" as an inside joke. I don't spend frivolously, and my wife doesn't mind when I make purchases relating to my hobbies. We're financially secure and we're very much aligned in our financial goals and philosophies, so when I buy anything (which isn't very often), she trusts that the purchase won't have a negative effect on our finances. She even gets a little excited for me when something arrives at the house. It's very nice to be supported in this way

[โ€“] Please_Do_Not@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Same exact situation here (incredibly luckily), so I guess I mean "support" not in the sense that my wife isn't excited for me when I find something worth getting, but more that I wish her excitement came from a similar place as mine, a selfish excitement to use whatever is on the way herself, rather than a much sweeter excitement about me being excited lol. And excellent meme, wil certainlyl be sending it along.

[โ€“] MorrisonMotel6@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I feel the same way. It's a bummer, but there's always conversations like these!

Fortunately, my 21 year old is super into music and cinema, so I can share with her. She wasn't much of a believer in quality components or acoustic treatment until we bought a new house and I could go wild(ish). Now, I have ruined her life because she's broke and wants what I have. I did square her away with a pair of decent IEMs though, so at least she can have a little of what she wants