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Sorry this is a bit of a depressing subject but I've been feeling down and I kinda want to interact with ppl online.

Basically I'm feeling down because the girl I liked (I'm not out to her) is very likely into another girl (she's bi).

I never dated in my entire life, mostly because I feel like a freak and don't want to seem like a pervert trying to flirt with a girl. I don't know why I feel like this, but it's really taking a toll on me because if even as a relatively attractive guy I couldn't find anyone, how the hell can I find someone now?

I know T4T exists but there are so few trans women where I live, and the queer community is tiny here. I feel like I'll always be a second option to cis women(genital preference) and it just feels bad. I'm scared I'll end up alone. Moreover the HRT is making me crave intimacy so that adds to the pile...

Anyone feels like this too and found how to deal with it?

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[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Being attractive as a guy isn't everything. Given you're transfem, I'm assuming you had low self confidence and all the other things that come with being happy with who you are.

I don't look particularly amazing right now, but my family recognizes I look a lot happier and act like a person now, rather than the husk I was.

[–] MicrondeMMMMMMM@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Thank you yes, it could be a reason why but, idk being confident seems easy to say, in practice I can only seem confident even right now, I'm not where I want to be though.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 months ago

Oh yes, it's hard, but I just want you to know it's not an issue of looks, it's a changeable thing. Personally, I only got some confidence when I started HRT.