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I have absolutely got pathologic rejection sensitivity of some description. The way my stomach turned just now because I noticed a specific person had unfollowed me on Instagram is crazy.
Thereβs lots of good reasons people unfollow, eg grew appart, or they are going through some life events, cutting back on social media, etc. When you unfollow someone, do you expect them to feel the same? Might help with the perspective. Meaning, do you think itβs ok for you to unfollow someone but donβt like it if others do the exact same?
Oh totally, I have no issue coming up with a hundred perfectly reasonable explanations. It's the initial sting of rejection -- rational or otherwise -- I can't seem to avoid ;)
it's totally normal to feel that way , no one likes to feel rejected and a normal person blames themself but like Cake said, you just don't know so don't take it personally
worth exploring that with a professional.
It's on the list!
Me too. I don't use instagram anymore and it's made a world of difference for my mental health. No need to keep up with people I hardly know.
I think being aware of the rejection sensitivity is awesome. Know that your feelings are valid. That initial sting is probably unavoidable :(
Some people blow it out of proportion and use those feelings to guide behaviour. I once met a guy who said I made him the most depressed he's felt in five years because he asked me on a date and I rejected him. It has helped me pinpoint the rejection sensitivity, self-soothe and remember not to catastrophise.