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What is an event that altered you in some way? (piefed.social)

submitted 3 months ago by cashmaggot@piefed.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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For better or worse. Small scale or large. Personal or shared. What is an event you've experienced that changed the way you act, live, feel, etc. It could be short-term or long. Share what you feel comfortable with. Triumphs and tragedies alike.

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[–] apotheotic 19 points 3 months ago (1 children)

When I was a teen, the girl that I loved with all my heart told me that my behaviours were (emotionally and psychologically) hurting her. I shouldn't have needed to be told, but I'm thankful that I was. Lots of therapy and introspection to get myself away from being that kind of person, and onto a better path. I learned to take responsibility and accountability for my actions, and to bring open and honest communication to the forefront of any relationship, romantic or otherwise.

I don't know if I will ever be able to forgive myself for the harm I caused her, or if I should. All I can do is ensure that I am never again that version of myself.

[–] cashmaggot@piefed.social 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Hey, on the plus side - you heard an honest complaint and did your best to fix up what you agreed with. That's more than most. But also, time heals (most) wounds, and in that sense I hope that things have patched up on her end. It was probably something both of you got to learn from, and it's big you did. Especially the power of communication - which absolutely should sit hellllaaaaaaaaa front seat. GJ! You dun-did good =)

[–] apotheotic 2 points 3 months ago

Thanks, maggot!