it absolutely was offensive way before that. from my understanding 2009 was the year there was a unified push to change things across the language though :)

also wow reddit was worse? i won’t lie i never saw it there in the past decade but perhaps i was browsing more wholesome subs than some

but yeah on lemmy it’s not an exaggeration to say i come across it (used as a slur, not in an aviation sense, children 🙄) almost hourly. in another thread i am getting dogpiled with downvotes for asking politely not to use it in a derogatory way.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Every time I've reported it on lemmy, I've seen it removed by mods, but I guess there are a lot of communities here I just don't visit.

Reddit had a very popular sub with the r-slur in its name, and I saw it a lot on CTH (don't ask me why I ever visited that sub -- I ask myself, and I have no answer lol).

And yeah, Rosa's Law was 2010, but even dating back to the 70s people were abandoning its use. I recall my brother having to write an essay about people with disabilities when he used it in school in the 90s (not that I approve of using writing as a punishment).

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

it does get left up by certain mods here 😭 part of the reason for posting this

in my individual non authoritative opinion OKBR gets grandfathered the pass ~~but only because it’s used in a purely non offensive context~~ nope it’s offensive, you are right. i think it gets grandfathered in because it has important memetic/cultural meaning. but it’s still obviously highly offensive and so should be treated with delicacy and respect.

hereabouts though i’ll see like, a thread argument about cross stitching and boom, r-slur used as a derogatory. like come on kids this isn’t kindergarten lmao.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

in my individual non authoritative opinion OKBR gets grandfathered the pass but only because it’s used in a purely non offensive context

Hard disagree here. It's the very definition of it being used offensively.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 4 points 5 months ago

You have a right to that, I probably need to do some self examination there.