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People who raised their kids without exposing them far too much to smartphones, tablets and modern tech, how did you do it? Were there any challenges involved? (self.chat)

submitted 1 year ago by cloudynight88 to c/chat

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I'm 22 years old, not in a relationship and I don't have any kids yet so I'm just asking out of curiosity.

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[–] Lols@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

its hard to say how much of the issues i experience today is really because of modern tech

i got into gaming at a very young age, and i spent most of my time just by myself playing singleplayer stuff as opposed to going out with the other kids. im not sure whether that was really a result of getting into pc gaming though, as i wasnt all that social even before that and had trouble making friends

not getting a phone until high school added to the issue because the other kids would be talking about things i flat out didnt know about, leading to further isolation

nowadays i just dont really make friends in person, all of my friendships and the like are online and based on common interests in video games and such

i dont know whether spending too much time on devices is to blame for that, or whether spending too much time on devices allowed me to find friends and people i care about regardless of the trouble i have engaging with people in person

[–] beerd 1 points 1 year ago

I think its easy to get into a cycle where one finds it hard to socialise in person, starts to live that aspect out more online, and then offline interactions feel even harder relative to that.

Online relationships can be really helpful, but at the same time it doesnt really fulfill some of our basic social needs. When i found a friendgroup where i could finally be completely open and where physical affection was encouraged it was like an enlightenment. Up to that point i was kind of miserable, but couldnt even realise why, only afterwards did i realise how socially deprived i was. I think nowadays to some degree most people are that way to some degree, especially males.

Hope you will find good relationships in person and never give up on it, i would have never thought that i will be able to until it happened.