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Sorry to hear that. I'm sure it's especially difficult for those who want the lifestyle outside the bedroom too. My ex was the type that expected me to muscle up (I'm a big person) if someone was mistreating her while we were out instead of de-escalating or walking away. Obviously, that's not my style, not to mention a good way to get killed.
I'm not looking to play the role 24/7 in a relationship, but it bleeds over enough into everyday life that I feel I can't get to a point where I have to keep it secret.