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Or, would you say most women actually perfer submissive men?

To be more specific, I'm talking about men who are submissive in their role in the relationship as a partner and also sexually.

It's an interesting, I guess, maybe taboo sort of topic that I would like opinions on.

Thank you for reading.

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[โ€“] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 18 points 9 months ago (6 children)

I like submissive men, and generally am downright turned-off by dominant men. Am I the norm? Probably not. I think there are more subs than Doms just in general, but especially among women

But I'm just answering your question as presented. Another has already commented some decent love advice if you're asking about this stuff as pertaining to you

I will add, though, that while strictly in a D/s dynamic, women are subs more often than Dommes, in any dynamic that strays from BDSM, the submissive tendencies are just sort of a spice when they come up, and that, if you're using the word submissive to describe a man who isn't conventionally masculine (Or maybe toxic masculine), you're probably better off. We wanna feel safe with who we're with, and outside of BDSM, you'll probably have better luck as a gentle, emotionally intelligent, confident person. Some people might describe that as submissive

[โ€“] pixel 5 points 9 months ago

I think the observation that there's more subs than doms, generally speaking, is a salient one and one worth keeping in mind. I honestly wish I had been told that when I was looking actively for a dominant partner because like, yeah you're almost definitely right it's just not something I'd ever really thought about bc it's so much easier to contextualize your own struggle than try to think about the bigger picture

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