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My father, who convinced me (16 m) at the time to move in with him instead of my mother when they moved. All 3 of the other siblings stayed with my mother. He then kicked me out the week I turned 18, a week into my senior year. Since then he stays in touch only to speak with his grandchildren (now going on 4 kids). I have never been anything but opportunistic and positive in our interactions. Regardless he still acts like I am a burden to talk too. Am now 37, and finally getting to the point I should accept it. I'm the complete opposite with my own children and can't comprehend how someone could treat their child like this. How do I cope? It eats at me. I will answer any questions in depth if it will help in understanding the situation.

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[โ€“] OurTragicUniverse@kbin.social 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Don't let him round your kids. He treated you terribly and hasn't changed, you shouldn't expose your children to someone like that. It doesn't matter if he's your dad.

[โ€“] em2@lemmy.ml 5 points 11 months ago

Was thinking that as well. Why open them up to someone who damaged your mental health and worth so badly? What if he does the same thing to them when they get older?