Asexual

A primer on aromantic and asexual orientations from JaidenAnimations

Beep Boop. Don't let them know I am a robot!

• When you're big into Demons because you just think they're cool and like the aesthetic and people assume its a sex thing.

• When you work with a colleague who just because you're single think you will steal their man.

• When you're at work worried someone might assume that being nice might mean you're flirting.

• When you say you're going to go do something fun on the weekend and they all assume it means doing the deed when actually I mean going to that nice pizza place and grabbing myself some garlic bread, and spending my afternoon at the arcade.

• When you have to fill in the "I'm not a robot captcha" and take a moment to double check.

Hello! I just joined Lemmy and am checking things out and noticed you fine Aces over here, thought I'd pop in and say hello, meet the neighbors kind of thing. I'm hoping I'll see my best friend around here if he decides to leave Reddit. He's how I learned about Aces and started getting involved in the community. Without learning about you guys, I would have never discovered my own sexuality.

Well, I do feel a little like I'm invading, so I'll keep this short. I hope to see you around!

Obviously for those who are pan/bi/omni You're the road that joins up ahead...

Originally I made a post on r/asexuality because I noticed a lot of mean spirited posts directed at sex positive aces. Aces who aren't repulsed by the idea of sex.

You can be ace and still have sex, All it means to be Asexual is you do not experience sexual attraction. Unless you are Aro-ace then you can still be in a relationship with somebody.

See below for the details: "Just a quick post warning, to remind you not to alienate sex favourable/neutral aces or stereotype allosexuals to the point of being unkind.

Nothing wrong with intercourse or a healthy relationship with two consenting adults. Nothing wrong with not feeling sexual attraction but still being okay with sex or pleasure.

Sex when done responsibly isn't something that is "dirty" or "unclean" can we stop with the posts conflating sex and stds together. Spreading misconception about STDs. I'm anticipating a wave of backlash for this but can we not have an echo chamber where Sex favourable/Neutral aces feel unwelcome. TERFs didn't become TERFs overnight. Please don't radicalize yourselves. (Does it sound extreme? "It's a few meme posts don't take 'em seriously" you might say, but no. It's a few meme posts, posted everyday.)

I'm repulsed but even I feel uncomfortable with the amount of immaturity I see being posted daily about sex. Jokes are fine, memes are fine but please make sure that it isn't at the expense of other aces. Hate doesn't end Hate.

edit:

Corrected Sex Positive / Sex favourable confusion. Sex Favourable, Neutral and Unfavourable/Repulsed are different to Positive/Negative."

Then created a community called "ActuallyAce" The name is hyperbolic with the intent of mocking the idea that people could be "ActuallyAce" So let this be the foundation for what this Lemmy community sits upon.

We respect all Aces and Allo's and we raise each other without it being at the expense of those who are different.