Whatever makes you happy is time spent constructively, wanna play games, time well spent, wanna read, still well spent. Dont burden yourself with the ridiculous optimizing yourself philosophy so many self help people adhere to (unless thats what makes you happy).
this post was submitted on 19 Sep 2023
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Yes I agree π
I just try to follow my passion, which in 70β is computers. I "waste" plenty of time with activities that are not productive, but when the obsession hits, I'll spend weeks in coding or leaning a new skill. Personal development involves time you just fool around with your hobby.
Curious that you typed c/o instead of %. I donβt even know his to type that on a keyboard lol
Lmao, typing from phone keyboard and found the wrong symbol. Didn't even know this existed.
Reading either for enjoyment or to learn is a great use of time in my opinion.
You don't always need to be doing productive/constructive things. Rest and leisure are valuable too. But if you insist, I suppose the first step would be to come up with a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Thankyou, my internal child agrees. I'm exhausted. Since a couple months I have a job for the first time where I feel safe, which is awesome.
I'm sad that I've never been able to play, like I don't even know how.that is β¦ I wish I could also have emotional memories of playing like a kid on the playground
Of course you're exhausted, you must have worked extremely hard to find that stability. I'm truly sorry you were not able to enjoy play as a child like all people deserve.
Play is something humans do to regenerate and learn. It's still a very good thing for you to learn to do now, maybe even one of the most constructive uses of your time - you have already identified it as a gap in your experience and that you're tired.
Was there any play you wanted to try as a kid but weren't able to? It could be a team sport like football, or drawing, or chess, or building, anything. Collaborative, solo, competitive, or all of them. Now is a great time to learn to play and to rest, and it will do you good even if it's not currently something you consider 'constructive' right now. You can even help other kids in your community with similar experiences while you do it, if you like.
Good luck! It will feel weird and new at first, but there is a lot to learn from play and you don't need to be a kid to get the positive effects.
You could make that a goal. Go sneak into a playground (after hours, ideally in a non-creepy manner) and swing on a swingset. Or go to a dog park and run around with some puppies. Also ideally in a non-creepy manner.
Or maybe don't take my advice. I feel like I had one good suggestion and the rest are all bad.
Maybe a pick-up game of basketball? Or try to get real good at shooting free throws on your own?
Ok a question this broad needs a Maslows hierarchy of needs ranking.
First is the basic needs. It sounds cliche but take care of yourself first. Cook and eat good food, including liver.
Exercise. Sweating it out really does help you physically and mentally.
Therapy. Sounds like it will help.
Read to expand your mind. High on my recommended list is "how to win friends and influence people".
Get new experiences. It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive, just random things are part of life's learnings.
Thankyou.
I think this one and two others help me the most right now
Read books.
Some good answers here already, if none of that suits you, you can always clean and tidy up wherever you live.
Thankyou, yes
Masturbate
I said constructive
And always try to beat your previous record.
Duolingo. They have Ukrainian now.
More stuff:
Bake cookies
Listen to an audiobook or podcast
Go hiking or take a walk. Or ride a bicycle
Write a short story
Learning a new skill or pursuing a hobby. Bonus if it does both at the same time. If say you like coding on your free time and your job happens to be related to that skill, then you get the benefit of doing both. If say your hobby is a sport and that's not related to your job at all, that's fine. The important thing is you're doing something you enjoy on your free time, and time spent enjoying something is not wasted time. Except drugs, or anything illegal. lol.