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Femboys are boys who dress, act, and/or look feminine.

Trans girls are girls who were assigned male at birth and identify as girls.

I hope this clears up any misconceptions on the subject.

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[–] knightly@pawb.social 29 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Sorry to confuse the issue, but I'm an AMAB enby that fits both and neither of these categories. =3

[–] morphballganon@mtgzone.com 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] knightly@pawb.social 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] morphballganon@mtgzone.com 6 points 1 week ago

Oh right, duh, thanks

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You're just too awesome B)

[–] knightly@pawb.social 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Hehee, thanks, but I'm just being me 😺

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago

yeah, that's what I said!

[–] missphant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I don't think Astolfo is a femboy cause they never refer to themselves as a boy and the japanese games use neutral pronouns. Big non-binary energy.

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 week ago

Maybe, I don't know. He certainly does give off femboy/femby energy. Maybe he might be both.

[–] Soulg@ani.social 7 points 1 week ago (8 children)

I thought there was a scene where he acknowledges he was a boy and just wears the clothes he wants?

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[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm a gender fluid trans girl except on Femboy Friday when I'm a femboy. My pronouns depend on the day of the week, but I always am okay with she/her.

[–] sneezycat@sopuli.xyz 20 points 1 week ago (2 children)

What pronouns do you use on logsday?

login/logout

[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 3 points 1 week ago

On Caturday mew/mewth

[–] mortalglowworm@reddthat.com 17 points 1 week ago

You decide on who you are and anybody telling you who you are can ef right off.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Assassination classroom femboy, excellent choice.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 week ago

Yeah but he was a male forced to dress as a girl by his Mom (and on one occasion, the classmates). I don't think he would want to be included as a femboy.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

oh no - "learn the difference" god that phrase still makes me mad

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Sorry if I offended anyone. I was actually very upset when I posted this because someone had been arguing that I'm an egg and trans girl in denial and that femboys are just trans girls who haven't gotten HRT and bottom surgery.

They said a lot more evil shit that I don't want to repeat. So I felt the need to make this post here and on !femboy@lemmy.blahaj.zone and I was kind of still upset when I came up with the title.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

thads vrri reasonbl... i jus-- i jus still really dun lik that phrase..

it sounds so like - "yea - im important, learn about me" which i rlli dun lik--

bt is fine <3 u did no harm <3 <3

[–] asqapro@reddthat.com 7 points 1 week ago

Top left - Astolfo (Fate/Apocrypha) (artist is pas / paxiti - https://danbooru.donmai.us/posts/3208688) (NSFW site)

Bottom left - Nagisa (Assassination Classroom)

Top right - Lily Hoshikawa (Zombieland Saga)

Bottom right - Luka Urushibara (Steins;Gate) (artist is foge - https://danbooru.donmai.us/posts/1271211) (NSFW site)

[–] AllBiMyself@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago

Love em both though

[–] Goretantath@lemm.ee 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

One of these is someone being forced to dress as the opposite gender because their mom is a nutcase btw.

[–] FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Metafalls_ 2 points 1 week ago

The bottom left one

[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 4 points 1 week ago

Both are sexy as fuck

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

i.. disagree? surely the only difference is what they identify as?
sounds pretty shitty to only let people qualify as trans when they've actually transitioned..

[–] chocosoldier@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

surely the only difference is what they identify as?

sounds like you already know the difference, where's the disagreement? dudes can be fem without being trans gals

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

the disagreement is that i think people don't need to transition to be trans, they just need to identify as a different gender than they were assigned at birth.

[–] chocosoldier@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

i'm trans and i don't disagree, i'm just confused how you're getting "pre transition trans girls are femboys" (a statement that i agree is wrong and problematic) out of this meme. people who identify as boys but present femme aren't trans girls either way, one layer of this meme is about them getting lost in the noise about trans women.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 week ago

i'm confused how you got that from what i've said, as that is specifically not what i'm saying

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's not the message or takeaway from this post, it is that boys can be feminine without being trans.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

right but then why define being trans as having transitioned? why not just say
"femboys are boys who dress, act, and/or look feminine. Trans girls are girls who were assigned male at birth and identify as female"

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 week ago

That is a better one and I should've written that from the beginning.

[–] modcolocko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)