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I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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[–] Polderviking@feddit.nl 2 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

I pump the brakes with the swearing if I'm around kids, complete strangers, or people I know really take offense to it, i'm honestly not trying to be rude on purpose.

But other than that, no. I swear a lot and have no intention to lessen that. It's an excellent coping mechanism for stress and it doesn't hurt anybody or, in fact, anything.

Replacing it with things like "what the cluck" would only add to the anger I feel in the moment because I think that's horribly cringe.

[–] AnonomousWolf@lemm.ee 5 points 14 hours ago

I think swearing is good if not overused.

I've heard studies show that people who swear are trusted more, something about them coming across more open and genuine.

[–] boringbisexual@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 hours ago

I would be the odd one out if I did. Hell, my general manager curses more than I do. It's just how it is in my line of work.

[–] apotheotic 1 points 13 hours ago

I've considered removing or at least reducing swearing in my common language usage, but I don't consider it enough to just replace swearing with placeholder words. "What the fudge" doesn't work, in my mind, because it is still clear to everybody what my brain was trying to say before my resolution not to swear intervened. "What on earth are you talking about?" Much better.

I kind of realised through running that through to its end that what my issue was, with swearing, was lazy use of language. So I still swear, but I try not to lean on the words as crutches.

Where this puts me, language usage-wise, is in a position where I'm using swearing as a tool to accentuate my meaning or express emotion succinctly, since I don't swear as often it carries more weight.

For instance, my high school bully was a reprehensible human being but Donald Trump is a worthless fucking cunt.

[–] Pulptastic@midwest.social 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

I swore for emphasis in a job interview and got the job! It was definitely a risk but they received the message I was trying to convey so it worked.

[–] jafffacakelemmy@mander.xyz 6 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Swearing is brilliant if you smash your thumb with a hammer, or break something expensive. If you swear all the time in normal conversation you don't have any special words left to use when those things I mentioned happen.

[–] Pulptastic@midwest.social 1 points 15 hours ago

Shouting “asparagus” is just as good, neurologically. It’s the action that matters, not the word.

[–] vext01@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 19 hours ago

I disagree. Swearing a useful expressive tool.

Just don't overuse it and know situations where it's best not used.

[–] gazter@aussie.zone 2 points 16 hours ago

My favourite is to exclaim "Shut the front door!" in conversation.

[–] OmgItBurns@discuss.online 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I do not understand the reason for swearing being considered bad.

I do not understand why replacement words are better.

If it were the specific sounds being made that are wrong, replacement words would make sense. However, since other languages have no prohibition on these words and may have words that sound the same/similar to swear words in another language.

If the meaning behind the words was the 'bad' part, then replacing those word with other words that express the same idea would be just as wrong.

Who determines which words are bad? If it's a cultural thing I guess it makes sense but a person is fickle and groups of them even more so. I still don't understand why a group would prohibit specific words but not their meanings (barring superstition, like in the case of the origin of word "bear"). If it were a deity of some kind, it makes me return to the question why specific words in specific languages but not the meaning and intent behind those words.

[–] Baguette@lemm.ee 4 points 1 day ago

I'm decently sure profanity became known as such because of either religious reasons or class division (along the lines of peasants vs nobles from early/medieval europe) and it just became commonplace.

I would say profanity nowadays though is a lot less taboo. It's been normalized in culture (hip hop, city culture, punk subculture) and a lot of people are less religious nowadays.

[–] atomicpeach@pawb.social 32 points 1 day ago

Fuck no! I always found it funny how communities find specific words offensive and look down upon people that use them. Context is important, of course, but the vast majority of cases I witness people swearing are non malicious in nature. (Don't get me wrong, there are absolutely words/phrases I will never say; again, context is key here)

Coming up with alternative words for the same intent is super silly to me, too. The individual makes it very clear they are aware of the "rules" and are making an asserted attempt to sidestep them. Why bother with all that effort and not simply use the intended word instead?

[–] wewbull@feddit.uk 7 points 1 day ago

There are no bad words. Bad thoughts. Bad intentions, and wooooords.

-- George Carlin

[–] crmsnbleyd@sopuli.xyz 2 points 23 hours ago

I don't have a thing against swearing but I do sometimes say heck instead of fuck

[–] PonyOfWar@pawb.social 14 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I don't exactly talk like a sailor but I don't censor myself either. I think swearing is much less of a big deal in my culture than it seems to be in conservative America. For example, bleeped-out words on TV or radio are not a thing here. I have not and will never use any "replacement words", those just seem forced and silly to me.

[–] voytek709@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

Oh nice! That makes sense. My grandfather and dad are conservative, so I think it’s kind of a force of habit to me

[–] POTOOOOOOOO@reddthat.com 2 points 1 day ago

I'm trying not to curse but when you fix things for a living you curse a lot.

[–] tiramichu@lemm.ee 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I'm trying to swear less. Or rather, to swear only where a swear is warranted.

My Dad has a habit of interjecting constant cuss words into everything he says, like "I was at the fucking supermarket right and then I'm just trying to find a fucking tin of beans..." and it's just so unnecessary, to the point where the swears mean nothing because they are just peppered everywhere. I have to keep reminding him, "Dad, please tone it down a little"

And that's an easy habit to get into but its exactly what I don't want to be doing - swearing just as punctuation.

If a situation calls for a swear then I will swear quite happily, "Ouch, my fucking toe!!" and I'll use the proper word. There's no need to find childish swear-alternatives.

But I don't want to sound like I can't even stop it.

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 5 points 1 day ago

Yeah I find prepositional F-bombs to be annoyingly juvenile. I remember lots of people in highschool who would get a mind blank and go

"Like....fuggin.... Whatever" to connect their thoughts lol.

An "um" is okay. LOL I've had to somewhat train this out of myself too... As my mind randomly blanks mid-thought quite often lol.

[–] CobyCat@kbin.earth 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Personally, I try not to swear even when I stub my toe… but it's quite difficult sometimes. When I do swear, I want it to be a deliberate decision.

[–] apotheotic 1 points 13 hours ago

I mostly agree but there really is no more powerful painkiller than "fuck" after the moment of impact

[–] resin85@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Forking shirtballs, The Good Place has the best replacement words.

Fuck, which becomes Fork.
Shit, which becomes Shirt.
Bitch, which becomes Bench.
Ass, which becomes Ash.
Dick, which becomes Deck.
Cock, which becomes Cork.
[–] voytek709@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

I forking love this

[–] Badabinski@kbin.earth 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Nah, I love cursing. I love a good, rancid obscenity. I'm perfectly capable of expressing myself without swearing, but I think it makes life so much more fun.

I do try to be aware of my audience. I live in Utah where the Mormons continuously find new and exciting ways to swear without angering sky-daddy. "Oh my heck" is a great example, because "gosh" is potentially a nono outer-darkness word.

I don't live to offend—I'm not an edge lord. I want to be inclusive of the people around me, so if I know that the person I'm speaking to doesn't appreciate swearing then I'll avoid it. Swears may slip out if the conversation is sufficiently casual, but I'll just apologize and we'll move on like adults.

It's not a binary. You can swear in some contexts and not in others, provided you're able to maintain some degree of mindfulness. That may not be possible if being around your family is like being captured in the Trauma Nexus.

Now that I've gone all this time without swearing, let me share my favorite obscenity. My partner once described a really horrible person (someone who committed physical and sexual abuse) as a shit-filled cunt, and god damn if that isn't just breathtaking. Truly a beauty to behold, she's such an artist with words.

[–] voytek709@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 day ago

I love this

[–] HenchmanNumber3@lemm.ee 9 points 1 day ago

Fuck no. Studies have found a positive correlation between swearing and being more honest.

[–] memfree@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago

When I was in high school, I was very anti-authority and swore all the time to be "against the man". When I started working in day care I had to cut out all swearing all the time because it was too automatic to ONLY stop in front of kids. When I got a real job, I continued my no-swearing bend as a general rule because -- at least until you get to know the people around you -- people will treat you with more respect if you don't sound like a foul mouthed low life.

Swearing all the time for no reason is a very low-rent affect. Letting out a rare swear will add considerable emphasis when your peers know it is not your normal behavior. Always swear when you hurt yourself. It helps.

[–] thisfro@slrpnk.net 4 points 1 day ago

Fuck no, swearing is great, especially in my native language

[–] 404@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

"Go fudge yourself" is linguistically intresting. With "fudge" being slang for feces, would you say "go fudge yourself" is closer to "go fuck yourself", "go shit yourself", or both ("go fuck yourself up the ass")?

[–] DirigibleProtein@aussie.zone 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

No, fuck that shit. Although I have been known to use the words clarinet, oboe, saxophone, spanner, and oompa-loompa in public.

For some reason this cartoon comes to mind:

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 3 points 1 day ago

Yes I have and found it often keeps tense situations from escalating. It sets a more friendly tone in general. An old buddy from a town I lived in 20 years ago mixed it up and says "mother flower!”

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 1 points 1 day ago

I went from never swearing as a Protestant to swearing sometimes too much now. I need to simmer down but sometimes it makes a point!