This is a community in the spirit of "Am I The Asshole" where people can post their own bans from lemmy or reddit or whatever and get some feedback from others whether the ban was justified or not.
Sometimes one just wants to be able to challenge the arguments some mod made and this could be the place for that.
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Apparently I don't have the mods account it's just verified on the app. Seems like mods on certain comms just make up whatever placeholder reasoning when you don't break the rules. I thought you had to blame the victim to victim blame and my post didn't blame anyone for anything.
YDI, telling someone to accept their abusive parents on a mental health community absolutely is victim blaming. Seriously, they probably should've banned you for that one it's just extremely shitty and unhelpful, possibly even dangerous.
Wrong I said accept that they're negative person. Completely different
Apparently I don't have the mods account it's just verified on the app
I'm the mod. If you want to see which mods do what, https://phtn.app/ shows it all iirc.
This was the context you left out: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/38049576
A post on !mentalhealth@lemmy.world of you telling someone they should accept their abusive parents. Seriously? And you think comparing yourself to their father is a good thing?
Seems like mods on certain comms just make up whatever placeholder reasoning when you don't break the rules. I thought you had to blame the victim to victim blame and my post didn't blame anyone for anything.
Really? You think you can go to a mental health community and tell victims to just accept their abusers? Read the room, man. I just inherited the community, too, so i'm not done actually revamping the rules.
I, and anybody else who had abusive parents would look at this and flat out say YDI.
I said accept that their father is a negative person, not accept their abuser as you put it. It's actually good advice are they supposed to think constantly about their father is verbally abusive, not repress it?
Looking at your responses in the most favorable way you are using the word accept in a different way than what people typically mean when they say "accept your family". Comment should still be removed, though.
Yeah I can't blame people for not understanding me and thinking a completely different thing based on one word I used
Yeah I'd say you're just being an inconsiderate asshole here. Then again, I have this feeling you get that a lot and you've just accepted yourself as who you are.
I have accept who I am? How am I being inconsiderate asshole? I generally think it's nice to actually care enough to give advice
Are you for real? :D I can see now you haven't accepted yourself for who you are, as you cannot see the fault in yourself here. But maybe saying "you are an inconsiderate asshole" is wrong, as I don't even know you, but rather that you constantly come across as an inconsiderate asshole. Like did you at all stop to think how your "advice" (that you so graciously have gifted the OOP with) might be perceived by someone in their position? Can you at all place yourself into "their shoes" so to say and gauge how your actions (or rather words in this case) might make them feel? It's ok if you don't, I can't do that always, but I acknowledge that as a personal shortcoming.
Yeah it's funny that everyone trying to give me a taste of my own medicine with their spin. Like yeah I empathize with them and I'm trying to help and it actually came from my personal life.
You'll accept the different kinds of people that exist in this world maybe not today.
If you empathize with them, then why are you being such a fucking cunt? In my eyes that's even worse than not being able to empathize, that's just being a fucking cunt.
I'm not seeing how I'm a cunt. This might be a 4 blind men and and a dead elephant situation.
I’m not seeing how I’m a cunt.
There's your problem.
Guess people on lemmy have effective muteness they just can't communicate what they mean.
Yeah, okay sure. Let's leave it at that. This seems like playing chess with a pigeon etc.
Guess you're the pigeon, but nah hostility doesn't mean anything to me. You obviously haven't read my advice or processed the actual meaning
Reading the context provided in the other comments, I'm gonna have to go with YDI here as well.
Why's that?
Gotta go with YDI here. This was posted in a mental health community which has this rule:
All posts and comments must be helpful and supportive. Do not put vulnerable people at risk.
OP was venting about their abusive parents and the mental health problems they struggle with because of that abuse. You were not helping OP. OP's story resonated with me and I absolutely would not want to read your comment if I were them, I would be pretty offended by it.
ydi
I disagree with your comment but don't think such comments should be deleted by mods unless it's specifically posted in a positivity-focused community. If users have a different opinion they can downvote the comment or put their arguments in a separate comment below.
This was the context: https://lemmings.world/comment/13713743
unless it's specifically posted in a positivity-focused community
Mental health discussion doesn't have to be all positive, but telling someone they should accept abusers is completely wrong.