Below is some technical definition, but with sexual positivity means to me in regards to means, is there a gangbang everybody walks away with a smile on my face.
When somebody is bathed in cum it is because they like that and they think it makes their skin better.
In short, I like my sex memes to be heavy on the consent, and heavy on the mutual pleasure.
Like I like my coffee.
🙏❤️
More than just that, though, says Texas-based sex educator Goody Howard (https://www.instagram.com/askgoody/), sex positivity is the idea that people should have space to embody, explore, and learn about their sexuality (https://www.healthline.com/health/different-types-of-sexuality) and gender (https://www.healthline.com/health/different-genders) without judgment or shame. “It involves being nonjudgmental and respectful regarding the diversity of sexuality and gender expressions, as long a s there is consent,” says trauma-focused therapist and sexuality educator Aida Manduley (http://aidamanduley.com/) , LCSW, adding that sex positivity promotes a specific set of actions.
Above all else, sex positivity values consent (https://www.healthline.com/health/guide-to-consent), communication, education that allows people to m ake informed choices about their bodies, and pleasure.
I want to add that all sexual content needs consent. Throwing sex into a game I’m running or playing in includes me in your sexual exploration, and if I’m not comfortable with that (and I’m not) then that’s not okay. And it’s also okay to not be okay with it.
100 percent! Consent, first , last and always.
That’s actually part of the definition of being sex positive which I listed!
( one of the reasons why I love Heartstopper both the web comic in the Netflix series . They put an enNormas emphasis on consent)
And I’d like to add that everybody forgets that the game master is the player too. Safety tools are for game masters as well.
So, if a player does something that is upsetting or triggering to you, you could use the x card.
I’m gonna bring up a non-sexual example. About 19 years ago I was game mastering an Eberron campaign.
I was actually adapting Monty cook the banewarrens.
Everything was going great. The players we’re having fun. I was having fun. And then the players captured in NPC and tortured her for information.
You see one of my players I just bought the real world book of vile darkness which had player facing torture information, including the exact dc of checks when you do things like cut off the victims finger, or use the pear of lamentations.
I was deeply upset with this, but because I was immature and didn’t really know how to communicate my feelings I just went along.
It’s not just sex that needs consent. Anything upset anybody at the table? People should talk about it.
Thank you so much for making this point! It’s a game we’re here to have fun. Not make people uncomfortable.