clumsy_cat

Hello everybody.

Since about half a year, i am recovering from a set of psychological problems (self worth problems, porn addiction, lonelyness, etc) - and i have made great success by repeatedly listening to affirmations, meditation and hypnotherapy. I specifically want to highlight one professional clinical hypnotherapist whose work i enjoy a lot. The link is from their blog, where you can buy a few things to listen to.

But they also have a youtube channel, which i recommend. Some files i enjoyed a lot:

• 10 Minute Guided Meditation - I love My Body https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XJZHi0aTWfM
• Train Your Brain To Focused On The Long Term Goal Hypnosis https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jl_6CUOATlg
• Freedom From Perfectionism Hypnotherapy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=52N-DBA2FCo

how and why does it work?

(i am not a professional, my explanation might be slightly wrong)

when you have psychological problems like bad self worth, then this is also implemented in a set of thoughts in your brain. So your brain believes deeply that it makes sense to have a bad self worth. When you listen to positive suggestions that say otherwise, the brain thinks this is not true and rejects that. However, this control mechanism by the brain can be reduced/turned off when you are deeply relaxing.

Like: while sleeping, your brain is sometimes very active. This is the subconscious, that tries to process things in dreams for instance. There, the control mechanism are obviously shut down. When you are deeply relaxed, this state is not similar to sleep, but similar to a state right before sleeping.

And hypnotherapy first have a deep relaxation part to reduce the brains control mechanism where the suggestions are more effective. However, the subconciousness also has some protections, which means listening to bad things will still be rejected by the brain. so you are safe.

And secondly: the brain learns through repetition, so thats why repeatedly listening to the affirmations (even while doing sports or hanging up washed clothes!) makes your brain believe things over time. The resistance protecting the bad self worth will be reduced over time, making it easier to overwrite it with something healthy.

In general, it works a lot with your imagination. So for instance, the link about perfectionism is about you writing examples of perfectionism on some board and then you imagine to clean the board again and feel relief. Then you start write new things you want to learn instead.

how has it helped me?

• my addiction kicks in when i feel especially bad about myself. for instance when i feel not beautiful and attractive. The "i love my body" affirmations are great for remembering to care about myself. This worked wonders.

bad things?

yes! hypnotherapy is not magical and you have to be careful. For instance, i have once listened to a hypnotherapy file from this person where you would try to feel strongly about the bad things you want to cut ties with (in my case, my porn addiction), and then stuffing everything into a backpack and boxing it and walking away from it (i think). While great in theory, it didn't work for me and i was left with the strong imagination on my porn addiction, leading to a relapse.

Basically, it strongly depends on your specific situation. These files are not specifically for your triggers, for your situation and therefore some might not work.

Therefore, i made more success with the positive hypnotherapy/meditation/affirmations stuff.

So be careful. I recommend to first listen to things while having full attention and looking inside your heart, how you feel what the person says. When it feels great, you can do it while relaxing.

At the moment, the world of Browsers is currently a big Monopoly favoring Google: Chrome is the most widely used Browser in the world (Some say, even 70% of all users use chrome: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Usage_share_of_web_browsers#Summary_tables).

Chrome has a so called Engine at its core. That is the thing which actually understands websites and can translate that to something you as a user can see and interact with. This engine is called Blink. Many other Browsers such as Opera, Internet Explorer, Brave, etc also use Blink.

That means, the developers of Chrome (=Google) have much power over websites, because they control how users see the websites.

The only other engines (and therefore truly independent browsers) are Gecko from Firefox and WebKit from Safari. Firefox however is also dependent on Google and is currently badly managed. (=The user share of firefox declines, the payment of the CEO is rising).

Furthermore, all these browser engines are written in insecure languages. (=Because when these were started, more secure languages didn't exist yet).

Servo is a browser engine, which started at mozilla (the company developing firefox), but it was discarded. Servo was then moved to the linux foundation and the open source consulting company iagalia (https://www.igalia.com/2023/09/07/The-Servo-project-is-joining-Linux-Foundation-Europe.html). So it is truly independent and its progress is promising!

Not directly related to programming, but i was thinking it might be too technical for technolgy post.

EDIT: as one of the admins explained below, they plan to migrate to something whitch uses ActivityPub, which means that my concerns are gone. I liked the interactions between servers who are equally wholesome compared to beehaw, which will be possible after the migration because of ActivityPub. So therefore, my sadness is canceled.)

The internet has already some queer forums similar to beehaw. For instance raddle.me and i am sure there are more that i don't know. Both have their unique flair and that's fine. I think lemmy (or more precisely, the ActivityPub powered fediverse that is at the core of lemmy) presents the unique oportunity to avoid isolated corners of the internet. I like raddle and beehaw, but i notice that i seldom read raddle and i think if beehaw goes to a similar isolated platform, i will probably read beehaw less.

I know that the mods tried to talk to the devs and their desinterest is equally sad.

However, i think you as a big instance still have one unused tool to fix lemmy's moderation issues within the "near short timeframe": talk to nlnet, the initial sponsor and explain to them your moderation issues. I think https://nlnet.nl/ would be interested given that lemmy is quite popular.

i think this could lead to two solutions:

• nlnet understands the issue and comes back to the lemmy devs and integrates the moderation tools into the next milestone so that the lemmy devs are more forced to develop those things.
• nlnet understands the issue and hires independent developers who fix the moderation tools which could either be integrated into lemmy (i think the devs wouldn't say no to this) - or it could lead to a fork.