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is anyone else tired of heteronormativity? (self.lgbtq_plus)

submitted 1 year ago by sleepybisexual to c/lgbtq_plus

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I kimd of am, why are so many relationships in media strsight? We need more lgbt representation

This is dumb and I'm probably getting offended for no reason but here's a small experience I dealt with recently

So like 30 minutes ago my grandmother wanted me to smile so she told me to think of a pretty girl and while I didn't react at all my first thought was literally "why not pretty boys" Its silly I know.

I'm not out but I literally couldn't be leaving anymore hints that I'm bi. Its funny how nobody noticed yet

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[–] shawn 50 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Is there a reason why you're not out? Being upset or offended over comments made from those without knowledge of your personal feelings is misplaced. Leaving hints is not actual communication. If you want others to respect your feelings then you have to actually share those feelings. I wish you the best.

[–] sleepybisexual 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not sure if they are accepting or not. There are very mixed signals

[–] frogman 5 points 1 year ago

i'm sure it can be nerve-wracking, i can sympathise with that. i can see why you'd be nervous.

to any lurkers, this is just another component of why representation is so important-- it signals that it is okay, normal and in no way conditional to our love. if we simply operated from a default perspective that is not heteronormative, then we tacitly tell others that we, individually, have moved on from the era of anti-queer hatred.

i'm not queer so i don't want to impose any uninvited advice, but i really hope that you can find peace with your family and with yourself.

[–] Sas 2 points 1 year ago

If they always assume that you or everyone they meet are cishet you might not feel safe to come out. It's a chicken and egg situation that can be solved by not always assuming everyone to be cishet

[–] sleepybisexual 1 points 1 year ago

I'm not sure if they are accepting or not. There are very mixed signals