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Have you thought of creating a mastodon or bluesky or whatever account just for these cases? It would have been nice to know that you were aware that the server mander was not working. We did not know if something had happened to you, or if you had decided to close mander or whatever.

Also, have you thought of adding an additional admin?

I stand corrected! Thank you!

Why is this in the "memes" community? It is not a meme, is it? We should have a general discussion community for topics like these! (if it doesn't exist already).

My claim is not that Lemmy should attract every single person. However, it does need to attract many many people. Here is why:

I think we all want to open a post about astronomy and read "Astronomer here. Here is what this post is saying:". Or read a post about nutrition and have someone with actual nutrition knowledge talk about the topic at hand. Perhaps even the author of the paper?

Do you want a random guy who installed arch-linux commentating (probably a shitty meme) on a highly specialized topic about math? Or do you want Terence Tao leaving his thoughts? I want the later. In order to have that, Lemmy needs to be welcoming to everyone and not just to people who know how to install Arch.

I use arch btw.

Some people, yes. But the person that wants something that "just works" probably doesn't feel like searching for all the privacy communities. He/She does not want to have to search which one is the most active, which one has the best rules, etc etc. That point makes it a negative. My point is that reducing friction of usage is a good thing, for growing communities at least, such as lemmy.

And just to be clear, I am the most pro-decentralization person you will ever find. I am not against lemmy. I hate reddit and what it stands for.

I think there are advances and disadvantages to this. Decentralization is definitely an advantage, however, having the same community split between many instances splits the community and the conversations and makes finding and interacting with the community much harder. This wouldn't be much of a problem on a very big userbase (such as reddit), but on a smaller userbase (such as lemmy), it does constitute a problem in my view.

Having said that, there are probably some UI/UX tricks that could be done to improve this sort of thing. For example, when subscribing to a "privacy" community, there could be a suggestions box/pop-up/whatever showing other privacy communities. Perhaps a graph of communities.

I have an alternative proposition:

As a society, we should all agree that car culture is not good. It is not good for the health of cities, not good for the envinronment, not good for anything really. Let's get as far away from cars as possible and start improving public transport and other ways of moving. One thing I would love to see is more shade in cities, from trees. Way way way more trees.

Pay attention to her "bids for connection". When she asks something, even if it is something simple, such as a request to look at a meme on the phone, try to accept the bid and do look at her meme.

Also, why not just ask her? "Hey sis, I see that you are unhappy with the way I treat you. I am sorry, I will try to do better. Can you tell me what it is that you want me to do more?"