Alternate advice given by my farmer grandmother: form as many connections as you like regardless how deep they run, because your social connections are important. But know that everything probably has an expiry date, no matter how well you keep it, like dairy. Give your love freely, take the love given to you freely and without question, and understand that everything is temporary. Even dairy.
Maybe it was just commentary on dairy. Idk.
That’s a super healthy way to look at it, so I’m genuinely happy for you, even if it’s not a totally ideal situation :) Learn how to just exist as yourself, learn what works for you and doesn’t, and approach new things in the future with that refreshed understanding of who you are today
I am super sorry to hear that friend. I’m almost 40 and in largely the same boat other than the whole different country thing, so I feel that quite heavily.
At least you have more than enough time to come back from it and whatever.. not that it helps right now of course, nothing does.
-hugs from a stranger-
I managed to patch a hole in my living room ceiling, built two microblock figures (I now have 3/12 of the set, and probably won’t get more even tho I love them) and did some decent cleaning. It’s not perfect, because adhd, but it’s progress, and all progress is good progress.
I finally got some stuff done around the house, raked all the leaves, lots of cleaning, changing out my RO filters, need to do the house ones today, as they seem to be done messing with the water lines. Should probably drain the water heater too, I guess..
Got some oyster and shiitake mushroom grows going, experimentally. Probably won’t work, we’ll see.
Considering how much of their research and development costs are funded by grants from governments, I’d say just get rid of private pharmaceutical companies entirely if they can’t play nice.
Give them a choice. No drug revenue at all, or any paradigm-changing drugs get their license bought out cheap.
They either go out of business entirely, and governments and academic institutions take over the work (so so much of it is paid with grants anyway, I don’t think pharma companies should keep any profits unless they fund 100% of the r&d for it, which they won’t), or they agree to sell the patents that can literally change the trajectory of a society for a fair “this is the actual amount of work we put into it plus 200% to make it worth doing.”
If they can’t be happy with that, the default option is they get to do nothing so..
But again, the profit motive of big pharma leads us to places like the opioid crisis, side effects that aren’t disclosed or even fully studied, etc. and I don’t think we should be trusting drug development to for-profit companies, at least not without much much better protections for patients and much more stringent requirements on proof of efficacy and safety.
My adhd says this is a lie. If I’m not good at something the first time, I’m bad at it and there’s nothing I can do about that. Ever.
(Yes I know my brain lies to me, but it also takes shortcuts which directly lead to failure, so it isn’t entirely wrong, just right for the wrong reasons.. and when it doesn’t take shortcuts it gets stuck in the planning loop and never progresses, because then it might fail..)
Edit: wait. Wait. I understand the point of this post now.. damnit.
What are they doing with the heavy metals? Building a new society? Can I join? I can probably collect a lot of heavy things.
I understand that very much. “I’ll let you do x” is not the same thing as “let’s do xyzabcdefg together as equally invested beings”
I’m glad that you and they are in better places; the stones that pile up on your side make you the mountain you are. :)