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[–] newtraditionalists 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Make rest a major priority. Doing nothing is so important for mental health. I also prioritize alone time and taking walks. Thanks for everything you and the team do. Please rest. It's essential. Huge hugs!!!

[–] s3rvant 4 points 1 year ago

^ This. I also like alternate creative work that keeps me learning tech without the stress of feeling like it's work. I personally like to write simple scripts to aid in tabletop game design or tinkering with cool projects like SpaceTraders or Minetest mods.

[–] Swallowtail 11 points 1 year ago

I just started grad school so this is very fresh for me.

  • Practice mindfulness meditation. It helps me stay on task when I need to work and avoid rumination or letting work seep into relaxation/recreation when I'm taking a break.
  • Learn to be strategic with your attention and perfectionism. For example in undergrad I could basically afford to give every assignment my all, but I've found that now there is just not enough time for that. If a task is low-stakes, try to do a good job but get it done quickly. Reserve your motivation for bigger more consequential tasks.
  • Constantly work to become more efficient. Ask yourself if a task can be automated or multitasked without much loss in quality. E.g. I have to listen to podcasts for class sometimes and will play these while I am driving around doing errands.
  • Take time off. There is a saying in IT that either you can schedule maintenance or it will schedule itself. That applies to your body too. I have occasionally taken zeroes on less important assignments or taken a vacation day at work just to give myself an opportunity to recover. If you are really giving your all, then there is nothing to be ashamed of in taking breaks.
[–] UngodlyAudrey 8 points 1 year ago

I wish I knew a good avoidance tactic. Instead, I generally just have to cope with it. I think I am rather prone to burnout because I absolutely crave novelty in what I'm doing, but I'm also terrified of leaving my comfort zone. So I always end up hitting a brick wall at about the six month mark at a new job. Just part of the fun of being neurodivergent, I guess. My usual coping method is to completely disengage and zone out. As such, I refuse to take a job where I'd "have to take it home". I need that leisure time to turn my brain off if I need it.

[–] thrawn21 8 points 1 year ago

Mental breaks. Scheduling yourself for a day of literally doing nothing.

On a smaller scale, I love working in my garden, and on days where I can't seem to keep my mind on task, I'll just stop trying and go pull weeds for an hour. Really zen and helps me feel better.

[–] middlemuddle 7 points 1 year ago
  • Take time off (PTO, sick days, etc.); you need to plan time off and also recognize when your body/brain just need a break for a day
  • Recognize your limits; it's okay to say that you can't take on additional tasks
  • Have mentally stimulating and mentally relaxing hobbies; zoning out and watching TV for a bit is good, but you also need non-burnout things to do that make your brain work a bit
  • Exercise; physical activity is so incredibly important for health and happiness, it doesn't have to be going to the gym, but you need to be doing something active regularly

Some of these things are easier if you're lucky enough to have the right job. Don't be afraid to change the main contributor to burnout by seeking out a new job that works better for you.

[–] IndeterminateName 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

At the moment I've learned that I don't. Going forward I'm going to take leave from work on a regular basis instead of waiting until I'm at screaming pitch.

[–] cyberdecker 3 points 1 year ago

This is a really good, healthy realization. I'm glad you've arrived at this conclusion and I hope you can address it!

[–] cyberdecker 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Learn when to say no.

You have to know when you're approaching your limit. Before you get to that, you have to be able to say no to new things or scale back ongoing things so you aren't working past your limit.

As an example, right now with work I'm juggling 3 main things. Working on research for an upcoming project. A project working on some information collecting, surveying and assessments of those results. And some review of business development documents. I'm close to my limit. I have time for them all, but just barely enough. I know my priority right now are the first two. I have already started scaling back on business development reviews. I was doing these as a favor to lend a hand and the other two things are more important.

I already know if I get asked to do more business development review work, I will say no and decline. I won't feel bad. I'm certain I won't get in trouble. I can set the boundaries that I have other important priorities right now. So while I know there's a lot going on and I sense my limit getting close, I have to protect myself from doing too much that will stress me out and burn me out.

[–] DrunkenWombat 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Totally agree. Good businesses will not belittle you for properly communicating when you are at your limit, they will seek out solutions to properly balance the work with the available resources. It is better to communicate that you can either continue your current priorities or you can drop x and y completely and refocus on z. If you take on too much and get none of x, y, or z done, then you, your peers, and the business are in trouble. Management of expectations is paramount. People don't like to be surprised, and business does not have a conscious or feelings; manage the expectations of your peers, and don't lose sleep about whether you offended the business by saying no, because it doesn't care, it just wants to find some path to monetary success.

[–] neamhsplach 4 points 1 year ago

I changed my job recently to something that pays less, but that I don't have to think about outside of work. I was burnt out in my previous role in an office to the point that I couldn't get out of bed without crying. Things are really looking up now (apart from the finances, but I'll work on that!).

I also try to plan around my menstrual cycle. I tend to get quite tired in the week before and week of my period so I try to schedule more down time in these weeks and then try to squeeze in more social activities, exercise and creative pursuits in the other two weeks. It's like my body has a built in "reset" mode, and when I listen to it it does wonders for my mental health.

[–] Griseowulfin 3 points 1 year ago

Hobbies and time off are good. However you gotta set boundaries and identify the stressors and things that take advantage of your good will. Make limits and boundaries to the point when you say no. It’s hard especially when you work in fields that expect martyrdom and what not.

[–] jennifilm 1 points 1 year ago

There’s great research that shows that work you personally find fulfilling or gratifying is great at preventing burnout - 20% of your workload being something you find really fulfilling can help prevent burnout significantly. It’s something I’ve really taken on board recently when thinking about my capacity!

[–] TheTrueLinuxDev 1 points 1 year ago

Reading book with audible I guess, it a great way to draw you away from stressful stuff.