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I'm currently struggling to find my home. I have an account here at lemmy.ml, where most of my posts are, and one at kbin.

Why do you think your instance is the place to be?

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[–] Zifnab25@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not gonna lie. I've got multiple accounts across platforms. But yours seems to be responding quickly and the content is solid, so... here I am.

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[–] jrubal1462@vlemmy.net 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I landed at vlemmy.net. I tried to register at a few bigger ones that gave infinite circles. By the time I got to vlemmy I wasn't really being too picky anymore, I was just trying to figure out if the problem was me or overloading.

A nice side effect of landing there is that some of my very few subscriptions are on beehaw, and we haven't been defederated.

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[–] Pisck@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I joined lemmy.ml because the join-lemmy site gave me extremely little to go on. It was a coin toss between this and beehaw.org once I realized how few instances were established and not right-wing.

That was only 2 weeks ago and already I've seen the site force 2 server upgrades, even as the admins have strongly encouraged new users to join elsewhere to prevent centralization.

The instance list desperately needs a few columns added, including whether new signups are encouraged or discouraged.

[–] small44 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm on Beehaw because there are no downvote button

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[–] gigachad@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

feddit.de because it was made for german potatoes like me

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[–] dotslashme@infosec.pub 3 points 1 year ago

infosec.pub because their communities were interesting.

[–] mayniac@feddiverse.org 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I created my own instance so that I know it will not just "go away".

Edit: I have a feeling that a lot of instances, besides the big ones, will vanish after the newness wears off.

[–] SinJab0n@mujico.org 3 points 1 year ago

I actually made my home in the one hosting a previous reddit community I was fond of, just choose one u like.

[–] Tahssi@yiffit.net 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I was looking for a furry one. Found pawb.social and yiffit. Stuck with the one that had nsfw. They both are Lemmy instances

I'm using https://lemmy.dbzer0.com because I can't start an account in lemmy.ml

[–] CheshireSnake@iusearchlinux.fyi 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] mycus@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

the reason


edit: put on 2:48, apparently the embed doesn't start at the timestamp lol

[–] freebrick@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

I initially made an account here because it looked cool. But I didn't know that kbin was part of the Federation so I also made an account on the newly created lemmy.world instance just to bounce between kbin and lemmy. But once federation was enabled here I subscribed to all the communities I had subscribed on lemmy world. Still bounce between the two buuuuut spending most of my time here. Love you guys!

[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmy.one 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I just picked lemmy.one mostly at random, but also in part because it advertised itself as well regulated but also not heavily populated and thus prone to crashing with the recent influx of reddfugees.

Seems to work okay, but I can't create a community without admin approval and the instance also disallows downvoting, and I'm not a big fan of that at all, but I'll give it a while longer and see.

I'm still finding it a challenge to find the balance of communities that interest me I used to have. There's an awful lot of meta chatter about the site itself from new users that, while I understand, gets rather annoying when it takes up the whole feed. So it's definitely an adjustment, resulting in me using it less than I did my old haunts, but in the meantime I've gotten a lot more reading done than I used to, so I've got that going for me.

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[–] hsl@wayfarershaven.eu 2 points 1 year ago

I created my own because I wanted a more specific type of instance, a place that I would want to read the local feed rather than just see randomness. I also wanted to create a space that I felt at home.

You're welcome to come say hello at Wayfarers' Haven - sign-ups are open but do need a short application to keep things ship-shape.

[–] DarkGamer@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I prefer kbin's UI to the other federated servers I've tried. Beehaw is probably #2 for me, and it seems like a really nice community. Mastodon.social is also cool but it's a lot more twitter-like which I have a hard time getting used to.

[–] Tatar_Nobility@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Back in my day, the only instance that federated with all other instances was lemmy.ml πŸ‘΄πŸ»

[–] hejsan@feddit.nl 2 points 1 year ago

It really doesn't matter too much. You can search for communities across the fediverse anyway.

[–] AlchemicalAgent@mander.xyz 2 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I joined mander.xyz because it has a central theme around the natural sciences. It could possibly include STEM content as well; there is an ongoing discussion about it. The admin(s) are present and very responsive.

For anyone with a love of science and/or nature I recommend it highly as a home instance of Lemmy.

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[–] KiranWells@pawb.social 2 points 1 year ago

Was looking for a furry one, and pawb.social seemed to be well-run (since it was related to a couple of decently-sized Mastodon servers) and was generic enough (and not NSFW focused). There also seemed to be a decent number of technical people there as well (in fact, one of the Mastodon instances is furry.engineer), so it matched up with my other interests as well. I considered lemmyrs.org, but ended up not choosing it.

[–] mdwhite999@vlemmy.net 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Vlemmy.net as it currently hasn't defederated from anyone or been defederated.

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[–] Cyder@lemmy.one 1 points 1 year ago

Knowing that Beehaw and Lemmy.ml were overloaded, I chose the next biggest one in my country at the time, which was Lemmy.one.

[–] TheUtopianCat@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago

I'm on lemmy.ca because I'm Canadian.

[–] andyMFK@reddthat.com 1 points 1 year ago

I'm still getting used to the concept of federation so... I created my initial account on beehaw because I liked it's ethos about being a safe and welcoming space. Then they defederated from lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works, which produced a lot of content i was going to be missing out on, so i created an alt on lemmy.world. I then realized this meant I'd have to swap back and forth between accounts to see both instances activity, so i moved to reddthat which is a nice little australian community, and this allows me to participate in beehaw posts, as well as lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works without switching accounts

[–] Andreas@feddit.dk 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

feddit.dk. I wanted a regional instance as my home instance, because they tend to be chill with controlled growth, while also having native language discussions. My country didn't have a Lemmy instance at the time, so I picked the closest option. I love Denmark and they don't seem too annoyed by my presence (yet). Thanks for having me 🫢🏻 πŸ‡©πŸ‡°

[–] VonReposti@feddit.dk 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well, my Swedish is nonexistent so you're definitely giving my brain a workout when I read your contributions at feddit.dk xD

But we're happy to have you, the more the merrier!

[–] Andreas@feddit.dk 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh no! I read a lot of Danish forums and got so used to reading it that I assumed everyone can easily read what I'm writing. Should I attempt to write in Danish? I don't know what's worse, subjecting you all to the devil language or Danish that is full of errors...

[–] VonReposti@feddit.dk 1 points 1 year ago

To be honest I think it's good for me to work on my language skills. I've been seriously neglecting German and Nordic languages in favour of excelling in English, which is a bit dumb given that I like vacationing in our neighboring countries.

So for me it isn't a problem as long as you don't mind me using DeepL for the difficult parts :p

[–] Friend@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Kbin just because I love the interface and I love the idea of having both articles and microblogs!

[–] tal@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I read the rules for a bunch of US-based Lemmy instances, as I wanted one with low latency -- if I'm going to be seeing the whole Fediverse through it, I want it to be peppy -- and I'm in the US. Many kind of took what I'd call a censorship-heavy position from the get-go -- like, creating a safe space for LGBT users or something was the highest priority.

There was one Dutch Lemmy instance that specifically mentioned free speech, but I was hunting for something with good latency, and pinging it with mtr had relatively-high latency.

There was a US Pleroma instance (IIRC freespeechextremist.com or something like that) that mentioned free speech. Pleroma, I understand, can federate with lemmy, and IIRC its default max comment size is longer. Unfortunately, browsing it without registering seemed that most of it seemed to be racist. I'd like a platform that doesn't try, as a top priority, to shut down everyone who is racist or otherwise offensive instancewide, but also not to drop into stuff that's just racism.

One thing that I did notice, skimming the content on said rather-racist server, was that they highlighted a Lemmy dev saying that he actively wanted to make it difficult for right-wingers to use the Lemmy platform. That didn't sit well with me at all -- I don't want to try to be using a platform that is actively opposed to right-wingers, nor to be in conflict with the developers of the platform on the matter, as it could lead to friction down the line. I also wasn't enthralled with the fact that Lemmy had a slur filter by default (though I'll concede that I don't know whether kbin does or not).

Kbin.social had rules that didn't from the get-go heavily talk about trying to restrict users and also wasn't purely serving up objectionable stuff. I tried it and discovered the fact that it had support for both Twitter-style microblogging and Reddit-style functionality, unlike Lemmy's focus on just Reddit functionality. I am most interested in Reddit-style functionality, but if I could get integrated microblogging, that'd be even better. Hence, I stuck with kbin.social, and so far, it's been unexpectedly good. There are a few UI quirks (e.g. the comment field is at the bottom of the page rather than the top), but people provided userscript fixes for that and other differences from Reddit within hours of me showing up. I'm broadly very happy with the UI -- the decisions made are basically what I would have liked to see from Reddit. Has a dark mode, though I use Dark Reader, essentially making it unnecessary.

I don't totally understand the kbin.social infrastructure -- I have low latency to kbin.social with mtr, but I don't know if that means that that's just some kind of Cloudflare-based frontend server in the US and the backend is located in Poland, where the developer is, or what. He does have a note currently in the sidebar referring to a "server room", which makes me think that he is physically near at least some of the infrastructure.

[–] Garrathian@fanaticus.social 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

My current instance has a bunch of sports communities, and typically the first thing i like to look at when i was on reddit were the sports subs. I was previously on beehaw but they kind of shut themselves off from some of other big communities so i migrated off

[–] SnowboardBum@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Sticking with BeeHaw for their community (usually browse local only) and now Kbin for the wider fediverse. I'd use Fedia.io over kbin.social (to put less strain on Kbin.social) but fedia.io isn't federating perfectly yet and seems to have image issues. I'm sure @Jerry will have it running smooth soon enough and I'll probably migrate my Kbin/fediverse-wide browsing there.

I figured my instance would make it easier to satisfy my requirement to tell everyone I use Arch, btw.

[–] tacticaltweaker@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Lemmy.world initially cause I didn't like the overbearing moderation and locked communities of beehaw.org and the developers of lemmy.ml. Kbin seems to be great and I prefer its timeline / sorting, I just wish it was a bit more polished with magazine syncing and certain UI features, but that should come with time.

[–] bitaites@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

I've created accounts on all of those and kbin is by far my favorite. Lemmy.world has some sorting issue where all the "hot" posts are two days old. And the others are just overzealous in their moderation or push weird political takes on non-political communities and I'm not really fond of that.

[–] Sam_uk@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Kbin.social is on Fastly now (same infra as Reddit)

[–] Haunting_Tale_5150@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Kbin.social has a good interface, a few userscripts to customize it as I please, and it was the first one listed on the website that was in english lol.

[–] minorsecond@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Is there a repo for the userscripts?

Edit: found them! https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts?sort=created&q=kbin

I particularly like the kbin enhancement script by SirPsychoMantis

[–] Amongog@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Theres the magazine (community) /m/kbinStyles.

I won't even try to link that, I still don't get it.

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[–] dan@upvote.au 1 points 1 year ago

I'm self-hosting my own Lemmy instance, but I might switch to self-hosting kbin instead. I'm just unsure whether it's possible to migrate comments and posts from Lemmy to kbin :/

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