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Man, guys, buddy, etc
Just use them as gender neutral. Done.
How many guys have you had sex with recently?
It's context-dependent. "They" as gender-neutral was also considered context-dependent until recently.
I agree that it can sometimes be gender neutral. I do not agree that it is gender neutral.
Referring to a group of people with a trans woman in it as "you guys" is passive aggressive for example.
It would be worse to treat trans women differently than other women.
Some people object to this usage of "you guys." Some people also object to "y'all." I know someone who dislikes "y'all" because it reminds them of confederacy and slavery.
If there is someone who expresses discomfort with certain words, it's usually best to avoid those words in their presence.
By the way, nobody can be expected to know whether or not a woman they are talking to is transgender. "You guys" should not be avoided for the sake of trans women if it isn't avoided for the sake of all women.
Literally a trans woman. It is also rude to cis women but cis women don't really worry about being misgendered the same way.
Literally a cis woman. I'll avoid calling you you guys. My trans friends approve of its usage though. I don't find its usage rude when applied to me. Please don't try to play the identity card just to win an argument.
How much have you read on setting male as the default as it relates to misogyny?
I'll take s/actress/actor/g any day of the week.
Hoe isn't really a gender-neutral term. It's really rude to call someone a gardening tool.
Tack on bro, sis, king, queen, and dude, and you've got a ton of words to choose from
They specifically asked for a gender neutral option to these.